After 4.5years she left me with no notice...

[Skyman]

The most painful thing in my whole life I've been dealing with over the past few days. This is the only board I feel close enough to even post it on. My girlfeind of 4.5 years left me. We grew up together, we got together at 17/18, Were now 21/22 and thsi guy at her work, I guess has been working everyday at seducing her. Telling her shes the most beautiful things hes ever seen, flaunting his monye, telling her everything she wants to hear in ever capacity. This all came down on me in one night. And when I found out she was with him I called her. ANd I demanded to talk to him. I got him on the phone and He told me everythign I watnd to hear. He promised me in everyway he had no intention in the world of going after my g/f, or hurtin gour relationship, he identified with me by saying hes been through something like that happening where his best friend stole his girl and he would never in a million years want to put someone else through that. He spew this horrible lies in my ear for 18min untill I felt almost bad that I yelled at him, and I felt satisfied w/ the situation. The truth was though they werent with a group of people from worik like he said, and he tried to kisss her and took her out to some club all night till 3am tryin to push liquor down her all night. This was last thursday. We broke up the next mornign that night at about 5 am. I didnt sleep or eat for a few days and am barely able to cope with things. She says it comes down to she just wants to have fun again, he makes her feel so good about her self and she would come home to me and I woudl say I didnt like her new shoes. Well im about being honest, not about telling someone everythign they want to hear all the time. Just like week she was talking to me about gettin married and stuff and thats somethin shed been pushing for for a while, and that I said I wanted with her but not till we were a little older. Then its this. I was so blind sided by it all its amazing. My whole world was destoryed, we;ve been living together for a year and half and have gone through so much. Me going 350 miles away for a job, her going 250 miles away for school. I try not to blame her, and I am not mad at her, as we went through something similar to this before, but me being in her position, that I regret, but was somethign that I guess had to happen. Now this guy makes me so mad, so furiosu that he could out right like endless like that to my face, and I know he has no intentions but to get what he wants from her and lie to her endlessly untill he gets that and then probalby leave her and hurt her a lot. And it eats me up inside that I can't help her from being hurt by that. I want in everyway to confront him, but everyone says not to, and I Know I shouldnt, because if I stopped their relationship in some way shed hold it against me forever. I had a clear cut plan that I wanted to confront him at work and take him into an alley, and force him to tell me the truth. Im smart enough not to do anything that would send me to jail or something, but I wanted to scare the shit out of him, I wanted to throw a cup of gas on him and hold a lighter and warn him if he wouldnt call her right there and tell her his true intentions with her I would burn him alive. which I never woudl really do though. What a disregard this sob has for trunign my life inside out, destorying what I thought was a rock solid foundation of arelationship. So much more to say, Im going to leave it at that. for now....

-Skyler