Mustanguy:
Sorry to hear of your trouble with your dad.
I can relate; My dad has a temper and so do I and we had our shouting matches and once or twice a raised fist when I was younger.
Then, we both would avoid each other for awhile and when we had cooled off (usually hours...sometimes a few days) we would apologize and forget it. This happened quite a few times and we both survived intact.
My parents were divorced too, for (good) reasons that I won't explore here.
My point, such as it is, is that this stuff is semi-normal between fathers and sons.
It can be survived without destroying the relationship but you have to bend a little and not let ego control your actions.
As stated earlier in another post; your dad may have many other concerns that have little or nothing to do with you, and these are the real cause of his stress level being so high that he makes wild statements to you, in anger. Maybe not, but I can tell that life gets more complicated as you get older and although this isn't an excuse for bad choices, it can help explain things a bit.
Let time do it's work and try contacting him in a week or so. See what happens and don't have high expectations. If he is still angry, so be it. You tried. You can't control other peoples behavior and they cannot control yours. We can only react in a responsible way and do the right thing. If he wants to wallow in anger about some car repair, let him. Life goes on and this is pretty minor stuff for him to 'disown' you on. I doubt he will, but I can understand your hurt over this outburst. That said, I'll bet this kind of behavior from him is not unheard of and if it is, then something may be seriously wrong...but I doubt it.
Angry types tend to be that way most of the time and this time it just got a little out of hand. I'm betting this will blow over, if you both want it to. Give it time and don't despair; at least you have a dad; some don't and would almost prefer a rocky relationship to none at all.
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