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ANyways. My girlfriend of almost 2 years dumped me.... I didnt see it coming. My life felt like it was coming around and gettin right. She says she wants to see other guys. She said shes sick of going to clubs and not being able to take good looking guys numbers like her friends. I never saw it coming. I always let her go cuz I trusted her. I loved her so much, and I never ever saw this coming. I feel so betrayed. I dont even feel like it was the same person. I feel so screwed. I can't believe it. She says she wants to goto away to college next year and not be tied down, to be able to get with other guys. I just dont get it. She always said she wanted to be with me forever. She had all the bad boyfriends in the past. etc etc. Read her profile form AOL. http://members.aol.com/lskymanl/profile.jpg I feel so screwed. I thought everything was right. Skyler ------------------ -1989 Saleen Mustang #406- TFS TW Heads, E-303, Edelbrock intake, 70mm TB, 73mm MAF, 24lb injectors, 1 5/8 shorties, Off Road H, 3 Chamber flows, Jaz Race seats, Back seat removed, sub-frames, Roll Cage, and a 80 shot of N20. 12.54@107.4 Motor 332RWHP, 350rwtq [This message has been edited by Mr 5 0 (edited 11-07-2001).] |
Crap like this isn't supposed to happen to guys like you! Now I'm confused too. I never met her, Sky, but you always put her first, and always spoke highly of her. You're a terrific person. You're in good shape, you maintain a steady income, you are always willing to listen to others, Hell, Sky, you're 5 times the man most guys your age are. It's her loss, but I know that doesn't mean much right now. Reading your post brought back some really deep wounds, and I really can feel for you. There is no simple answer. I, and everyone else can tell you that time really does help heal, but that line is probably pointless right now. It's going to take a while before this even sinks in. You've got a couple years on her, man, and she's probably just feeling antsy. Be glad she told you this way, rather than finding out after she starts seeing someone else. That's what happened to me, and I'll tell you, there's no lower feeling in the world. You guys have some more talking to do, but if you start to feel angry, back off, and get away from her. Anger only makes things worse. I'll tell you what, we already won the championship, but there is still one more race for us this Saturday. Why don't you come down to the track and hang out with us in the pits this Saturday. It might help get your mind off things, and the change of scenery couldn't hurt. Not to mention, I know you're going to dig checking out the 700 horsepower beasts. Last week, there were 33 regular sprints, and 21 seniors! There will probably be at least that many this week. If you can't afford the $20 for the pit pass, I'll cover it for you, but I may put you to work! Let me know before Friday.
Either way, Sky, I'm really sorry you're feeling what you're feeling right now. I know it hurts. Take care, -Chris ------------------ Retired Moderator MustangNet My site: Peckerwoods Pit Stop http://homepage.mac.com/pkrwud/.Pict...sc./MyMac.jpeg My teams site: Jim Porter Racing RACECAR spelled backwards is RACECAR HEY !!! Are you ASE Certified ??? If you are, ask me about iATN. |
Sky - There is nothing to "get". Do not, I repeat DO NOT bang your head against the wall over this. It just wasnt meant to be, and thats all there is to it. Its nobody fault, not yours, not hers, just accept it and move on. Trust me, its the best way. If you fight it, it only hurts worse. Dont try to understand it, dont analyze it, that will only drive you nuts with no benefit.
She obviously doesnt know what she wants, so she wants to see whats out there. A little advise - Dont ever believe a woman who says "I want to be with you forever". Anybody who makes that statement is inmature and you have to take it for whats its worth, which is absolutely nothing. ------------------ 1993 GT/AOD '93 Mustang GT |
Wow... deja vu....
Man, that sucks, they're right though, it's a good thing you found out this way rather than when she was with someone else. I don't know how women do it. Everything's fine, then BAM! All of a sudden, they're over you for some strange unknown reason. We may never know, it just seems they never want the ones who will take care of them, but they ***** about the ones who don't! Figure it out ladies!!!! http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/mad.gif Good luck, Sky, it'll get better, I know how you feel, I'm going through relationship distress as we speak! ------------------ Joe! 1988 GT, 167,000 miles!!! 13.58@105mph Check out my listing! Click here! Or my website:www.joe4speed.com 99 Ninja ZX-6R:10.32@135mph! 1993 Olds Eighty Eight LSS 16.40@88.8mph http://www.duhspot.com/users/smiley/.../outtahere.gif |
Thanks guys sooo much. Every little bit helps, it really does. Chris- I may take you up on that, but I have to see if I feel like it later this week.
I have so many mixed feelings. I feel betrayed, I feel like I was with a fake person, I feel so miled. And yet I have anger or anxiousness too. I slept 3 hours last night. Im dead tired, but I can't sleep one bit. Skyler ------------------ -1989 Saleen Mustang #406- TFS TW Heads, E-303, Edelbrock intake, 70mm TB, 73mm MAF, 24lb injectors, 1 5/8 shorties, Off Road H, 3 Chamber flows, Jaz Race seats, Back seat removed, sub-frames, Roll Cage, and a 80 shot of N20. 12.54@107.4 Motor 332RWHP, 350rwtq [This message has been edited by Mr 5 0 (edited 11-07-2001).] |
Skyman.
That had to be a total shock to the system. Its hard for me to give advice when I myself have little that goes right in my love life. I can attract them, but its usually the mentally unstable, or No particualar dierction Women. There were a few good ones! http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif Crank that Saleen up and let them ponies fly. I know this might hurt, and I dont mean to upset you at all. Dont take it the wrong way, but if all she worries about is not being "Able to take Cute guys numbers like her friends." "And being tied down while in college" She doesnt sound like much of a catch, to say the least. That sounds so SHALLOW. Women like that Really Really Really Piss me off. Okay sorry man, I didnt mean any harm. You Can do much MUCH better. I got back at the "Fake" Women I dated a few years back, and in a big way. http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif Nothing like a little revenge to make the soul feel better. Anyway man, We at Mustang WOrks are here for ya. Go hang out with the guys, Grab a Six pack (If your 21 or older) put your car in the garage, call some friends over and find something to do to her. Her bieng the car! http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif Dont go dating right away because that will only make you feel worse, you'll think about her more. Give it a few weeks, and just chill with the friends, they'll help you overcome anything. Especially if you have Good friends and family like me. (I consider you all my friends too.) [This message has been edited by Mercury (edited 11-07-2001).] |
Sorry, Sky. This brings back memories for me too. There is no lower feeling than losing the one you love. But, people on the board are right. It only gets worse if you try to fight it. My advice to you now is to just stay away from her. Resist all urges to call her and try to work things out. I have never seen that work. If anything, you may just need time apart and things may work out later, but do not try to force them to work now. It just makes it harder....trust me.
I was crushed when I got out of my last serious relationship, but many positives have come out of it. I finally (after almost two years apart) realized I could have never married that girl. And, I have regained my relationships with some of my best friends and learned a lot about myself and relationships. Sure, I want to be with someone again, but I look quickly for warning signs that I didn't used to see and stear clear. Just try to surround yourself with things to do and friends, and time will eventually heal all woulnds....although letting time pass can really suck. Also, as an added bonus: I bought a motorcycle with the money I would have spent on her http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif! |
Holy **** , Sky! What the **** is all that about? It sounded to me like everything was going right and coming together for you two. This is suck-*** . I know you've been workin your *** of as of late, did she pull the fuckin "time" card out again?
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DAMN!!! I am sorry i don't have much to say except that we are here for ya and feel your pain. I will never understand women. All i ever hear from the women i know is bitching about how there are no good men in the world but as soon as they find a good one they go and **** it all up! GET A CLUE LADIES!!! Sooooo sorry man! Jonathan
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I don't know maybe i am just an ****** but in situations like this i always have a back up. If she doesn't want u who cares there is always a girl out there that does. I will usally feel sad for a day or two but that is it. Don't ever let a women break ur spirits. there will always be more. Just be true to urself cuz u are the only person u are ever truly gonna have. Well take care i am sure everything will work out just fine.
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Sky,
Let me tell you that I'll lift up a prayer for you tonight. I know a little bit of how you must feel, and I'm sorry you have to go through it. I've never met you or talked with you on the phone, but I've developed a respect for you over the last three years in the exchange of posts here on MW. You've got a lot of friends out here, and you've always proven yourself to be a mature and considerate person. I don't know what her deal is, but I agree that she has a good bit of maturing to do. God bless you man, and take care. Don't do anything stupid like getting drunk and driving your car or anything like that. Just sit it out. Sometimes that's all you can do. --nathan ------------------ '91 GT, 306, 1087 cam, 70mm TB, 76mm MAF, RPM intake, ported Windsor Jr. Irons, headers, Flows, AOD, PI 2800 converter, Transgo kit, and 3.73's. Best ET/MPH: 14.595 @ 94.41 (3400 ft altitude = 13.99 @ 98.54 @ sea level). Check out my site |
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Sky, I've never been in such a relationship where it was just cut off like that, kinda like a dog getting neutered without painkillers. I can't even imagine how you feel right now. All I can say is we're feeling your pain too (seems at least most of us guys on the 'board here are going through similar relationship break-ups), and just to come here and talk about it, if not with your friends at home. We're here for ya. The pain & stuff will last for a while. Believe me, I've felt it. Fortunately, time heals all wounds, and this is no exception. Take care. ------------------ Capri306, Moderator, The Mustang Works Online http://www.anyflag.com/flagpoles/animated.gif "PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN!!!" http://www.anyflag.com/flagpoles/animated.gif |
JL1314 said it very well -
"I don't know how women do it. Everything's fine, then BAM! All of a sudden, they're over you for some strange unknown reason." I found this to be true in a couple relationships, and its been my experience that the woman who do this already have another man in their sights. Woman arent single very long like men, and they jump from man to man quickly. The amazing part is they can do this without showing any emotion. Its almost like they can just turn it on or off like a switch. They love you one minute, hate you the next. It all boils down to this - Woman are cold, cruel, evil beings and should never be trusted. They play with our emotions like we play with our cars. Just take up the "I dont give a crap about woman" attitude, and they will come swarming to you. They dont want "nice guys". Be yourself, but treat them like one of the guys sometimes, tell them to go f-off or whatever. They like it, they are sick, strange creatures....ok, i better shut up now before my wife walks into the room.... later days, better lays ------------------ 1993 GT/AOD '93 Mustang GT |
Extreme II, Pornograffitti, track 11.
That's all I'm gonna say. Take care, -Chris ------------------ Retired Moderator MustangNet My site: Peckerwoods Pit Stop http://homepage.mac.com/pkrwud/.Pict...sc./MyMac.jpeg My teams site: Jim Porter Racing RACECAR spelled backwards is RACECAR HEY !!! Are you ASE Certified ??? If you are, ask me about iATN. |
what is the name of track 11? I want to try to download some music with my new "high speed" cable modem. This thing rocks!
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He-Man Woman Hater
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Damn dude, sorry to hear that. My ex-girlfriend and I were together for two years. I thought everything was great, then one day she just started ignoring me. I finally got hold of her and confronted her and she just said she didn't want to get any more serious right now. WTF! Chicks are weird man. Then she starts going out with this guy who's old enough to be hear father. Oh, well. Anyways, I'm sorry to hear that and I hope you feel better. Keep us posted!
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Hey Skyler,
Let it go...She definately doesn't deserve someone like you!!!With that cool car of yours, I'm sure you'll have NO PROBLEM, picking up a new main squeeze...Don't worry dude...been there, done that....Just ride it out...and remember hang in ther!!!Jimmy G |
PKRWUD: that is one of the best Extreme songs to d/l, dude. Made me feel a whole lot better, especially that intro guitar solo. Nuno is a god! http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif
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Sky, I'm sorry to hear about your girl, but I'm glad that you didn't find out later......it's always better to find out sooner rather than wasting more time than you have to on someone who's not worth it. You seem like a nice guy, you're very helpful, and you sure know your $hit about stangs. You also seem more mature beyond your years. Once you mentioned her going off to school next year, I completely understood. That scenario happens WAY too often......the "I don't want to be tied down, and want to date other guys" routine. Take my word for it.......f&^%k her! Say goodbye and give her a final one finger salute! I know it hurts right now, but like I told Merc........the only thing that'll make you feel better is by going out and dipping it into every little hottie you come across. Take it from someone that's been there before in the not so distant past. Keep your chin up.......you're more than she deserved! http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif
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hang in there brotha. dont let those feelings crush you.
keep yourself busy with the lady stang, thats my advice. the other queen... she'll call looking for you, and specially if you ignore her for the time being. dave |
Seems like these days our stangs are more reliable then our woman. http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif Don't worry bud, everything will turn out for the best. I can see what happen to you is coming my way soon. It ain't easy stuff to deal with, but just take it one day at a time and while your single just turn your love over to your car. =)
This message board is all about love, either of our cars or woman. Can't live with them but sure as hell can't live without them. =) ------------------ 1969 Mach 1, 351-4BBL Windsor, 4 Speed. Moving At The Speed Of Sound. |
Dude I've been through some real horror stories. I've been absolutely crucified! I could say alot but I will just say this #1: don't drink- this will make you do things you really don't wanna do. #2: Turn the radio off.. trust me on this one. #3: Get out and do something!! Just get out..
Actually, the last time I went through this I started going to parties I never went to before, throw some Kid Rock in on the way over... it helps. Strip clubs are good too http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/wink.gif |
rbatson: excellent advice, I agree with every point you have there.
Hey, didn't we have a thread a while back titled, "Why Mustangs are better than women?" http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/eek.gif http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/wink.gif http://www.mustangworks.com/msgboard/biggrin.gif I wanna see if I can dig that up here....mebbe some more good advice will be waiting for me. ------------------ Capri306, Moderator, The Mustang Works Online http://www.anyflag.com/flagpoles/animated.gif "PROUD TO BE AN AMERICAN!!!" http://www.anyflag.com/flagpoles/animated.gif [This message has been edited by Capri306 (edited 11-10-2001).] |
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Sky, Being in many relationships in my life I have learned one thing. Take care of yourself bud. One can never foresee the future in relationships. Loosing the one you love in a break-up hurts but it will make you so much stronger in the long run. I now have been married for 12yrs and call myself lucky. But yet each day I take in stride because she might leave. Be good to yourself and go have fun and don't let it bring you down too much. There is always someone else out there better for YOU! Take care and good luck.
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Jesus, Sky, you really need to post an update.
Forget it, Skyman is hoggin too much sympathy. More for Mercury, Capri 306, and the likes!!! Skyman is back with his girl, she had a brainfart, lol. Now, commence operation sympathy for the rest of us, HAHAHa. |
Sky, are you going to tell them or should I?
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Tell us What??????? Do tell.... :)
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Come on Sky!! I knew it!! You took her back!!:) Well... at least now you can drink and listen to the radio. LOL:D
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Hey guys sorry it took me so long to get back, but I don't have a computer at home and were waiting for the DSL to get put in at work. So weds I will finally be back online to catch up here. Anyways, the day after I was sitting at work, being erally angry, writting her a LONG letter exaclty how I was feeling, and getting all my **** out. Just as I am finishing it and signing it I see her pull up. She comes in and looks at me with a look that I knew exactly what she was gonna say. She said she screwed up bad, she couldnt belive what she did. And she was so stupid for thinking of throwing someone like me away. I told her stern that I wasnt going to go through this **** again, and that theres some real hurt feelings to patch up here. I told her theres no way I'm gettin back with her unless shes 110% sure. She said she was.
So thing have been good since. Its felt like our relationship when we were first goin gout. I think we both just let things slie, and it was just getting boring and routine and we werent going out and doing stuff anymore or anything. Anyways I can say Ive been real happy sicne, and it did make me wake up and realize nothing is secure and fo rsure. I can't say how much I appreciate each post from each one of you guys. Its awesome. Skyler |
Awwww, don't ya love a happy ending?
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Well, good for you, I'm so glad to hear it man! Good luck!
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Hey Sky, Good for you man. I guess she realized what she was missing. Anyways, I'm happy for ya. Take it easy.;)
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Wow, that's great it seems all our MW Guys that were having relationship probs. seem to be working things out. I think that's great, good luck and much happiness to all of you! :D
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Hey Sky....
I'm glad to hear that your happy again man. I dont mean to send any rain clouds over ones sunny day, but BE CAREFULL. I have learned from experience, that when a relationship gets a reprieve, things feel great at first, just like the first date all over again, even better sometimes. But that can end quickly. It can fill you full of false hopes. Dont go diving back into things like nothing happened. Thats the mistake I make all the times. For example. You all remember my post about "After 3 yrs and 11 months its over". Well me and my girlfriend are getting back together (Well kinda). Things felt all Warm, Glowy like, and Fuzzy, but that soon faded. Now I feel even more alone bieng with her. After a short period of time Things go back to the way they were. We begin to feel disconnected from one another, like theres and ocean between us, and the distance just keeps growing. That first initial feeling of getting back together makes it hard to make a logical decision. So just be carefull man. I hope things go better for you than they are for me. |
mercury, you have a point buddy, im in the process of seeing my ex, but cant seem to get over what she did to me, although i act like it,
it feels like there is something between us, and it wont be the same, maybe it will be better at first, who knows..... |
A creature that bleeds for 5 days straight without dying must not be trusted.;)
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Low Down - LOL!! That's the best one I've heard yet, so now we're creatures, huh? That's pretty funny, don't let your experience with a girl ruin you for the rest of good ones! ;)
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Sky, over the summer my wife of 8 years and I called it quits, and no one around us saw it comming. Long story short it killed me to be treated like she was treating me, but we both moved on and both have found someone much better for each of us. I have a connection with my new girlfriend like I have never, ever felt before. Trust in fate, and try to move on with as little pain as possible.
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GTgrl00 - IF you know a good one other than yourself that isnt 20 hours away from me please let me know. I've looked and to no avail have I found a nice, considerate, good looking car girl to hang out with much less have any kind of relationship with. That old saying "There are other fish in the sea". That may be true but I guess i'm just fishin out of the wrong boat.
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My lips are sealed. Maybe thats why I haven't got a bite yet. I will go buy a permit tomorrow. I buy a hunting permit also. I believe Hank Jr.s said it best with, "I'm going huntin tonight boys, but I ain't takin no gun". He also is quoted as saying "I live to love TEXAS women". With that said I begin to pack. I believe i'm moving. Texas here I come.
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yesir, and hank jr. says "and i aint seen nothing, that can touch them yet"
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the way i see it is. it is her loss not yours. and believe me she will regret later.
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Skyman,
I know exactly how ya feel. Just broke up with my g/f last Tuesday. Even though we only dated for about 4 months - we had known each other for about two and a half years prior. I knew that this was going to happen (we hadn't been communicating like we had when we started dating lately - barely talking at all) about 1 month ago. Now - there were definitely some issues with her and I - like, she hated it when I would spend time w/ my friends - ya know, the guys getting together, drinkin' a few cold ones - shootin' the sh*t. She said that she liked my friends (which I do believe to some extent, seeing that's how I met her), but didn't like the way I acted when we were 'partying'. In the beginning of the relationship, it was awesome - we were unseparable. She would even call me on her business trips (she travels a lot) - and say she can't wait to get back. I guess the first couple of months was just that infatuation / warm fuzzy stage. We broke up for about a week - she just got to be too controlling. Expecting me to take her out all the time, blow off my friends, and pay for EVERYTHING!. No way am I going to do that - this is a new millennium, not the 50's - 60's!! (where the guy treats for everything). She asked me to be her date to quite a few events over the summer - weddings, company picnic, a bar mitzvah, for a brother of a kid she used to teach. We went on road trips, and camping, I had a great time! For once I had a really great time with a chick... didn't need to be around my other rowdy guy friends getting all sh*t faced to have a good time! It was cool! ...and then comes the sex! Whoo Hoo!! She was WILD. Not a nympho, but incredibly adventurous! :D She absolutely loved cunnilingus and giving fellatio. :p ...and LOUD! Sh*t!!! We had the cops come to a hotel we were staying at one night on a road trip we took to western Michigan. Answered the door dripping wet with sweat, the mattress and sheets off the bed... :D ...and in the Mustang - (does female ejaculate ruin leather)? Oh well! I had an Awesome time - by far the best sex I've EVER had! Anyway, a couple weeks ago I ask her if she wants to do some Christmas shopping w/ me at a few outlet malls at Birch Run later this month - after Thanksgiving... she says - NO - she's going to be with her family. Then I ask (with hesitation) how about the first of December - she says No, she's got something to do at 5:00PM. I'm like, 'what'? She finally tells me it's her company Christmas party, and says she wants to go alone. (At this point I knew it was over). If it had been a few months ago - I know she would have invited me weeks before... So, anyway - I gave her all of her stuff back, and collected all my stuff from her place on Tuesday. I was going to break it off with her this weekend - so she beat me to it. (Guess that makes me a MAJOR LOSER! esp. to any of the females that are reading this!) :) As I'm leaving her place, she says 'wait, you're not leaving that easy', and gives me a huge hug! WTF. 'We're better as just friends, I still want to hang out together', she says. I wanted to ****ing punch her in the face! In ending (I know this post is long - I find it therapeutic actually), I cared about her more than any woman I've ever dated. Even though, it was a short span - I had thoughts about marrying her! SH*T!! (I need to call a shrink). I mean I am getting up there in age - 32. Damn!! My mother's like - 'I want to be a Grandmother' I could make her a grandmother this weekend, but I think she'd like me to be married first! :) I know ending relationships is hard weather you're on the giving or receiving end. But I've been through this many times before - trust me - time does heal all wounds. Try to think about the things you didn't like about her in the mean time. Mike |
Whoa <Gt girl Wiping sweat from her brow> damn Mike, how ya doing man, haven't heard from you in awhile. I can see you been a little BUSY! ;)
Talk about detail, is there anything you forgot to tell us, j/k. And to think all you can worry about is how the Stang's leather is going to fare(that cracked me up the most, considering all the chats we had about taking care of the precious leather). But really you are correct time does heal all wounds, I can certainly attest to that! Hey take care and keep in touch. :D |
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