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MEDIK418 · 11-12-2002, 02:21 AM

Anyone who's been together for that long has to have something going but, it sounds like this is some kind of agenda you're on. . .hers! My wife and I were engaged for 6 years and it finally came down to my giving her the ultimatum that we either get married or go our separate ways. Our problem was that we still weren't sure about the future and guess what, nobody is. We just had to make ourselves stop making excuses and get on with it. One way or the other.
If you're already having second thoughts, getting engaged will only make the feelings stronger, for better or worse. Any trepidation you have will turn to regret and you really don't want to be in a relationship where you regret any part of it. I agree, if she can't wait, then maybe it's not meant to be.
You're in a hard spot with this one. If you tell her you want to wait, all she's likely to hear is "I really don't want to do this" You mentioned med school. Do you think there might be a chance she wants to be married to a doctor her senior year or to you. Harsh words, and I apologize if it sounds mean spirited because I don't mean to be but I hate to see people make mistakes of this caliber when they're just getting started in life.
Good luck

11-12-2002, 02:21 AM	#5
MEDIK418 Registered Member Join Date: Mar 1999 Location: Amarillo, Texas, USA Posts: 780	Anyone who's been together for that long has to have something going but, it sounds like this is some kind of agenda you're on. . .hers! My wife and I were engaged for 6 years and it finally came down to my giving her the ultimatum that we either get married or go our separate ways. Our problem was that we still weren't sure about the future and guess what, nobody is. We just had to make ourselves stop making excuses and get on with it. One way or the other. If you're already having second thoughts, getting engaged will only make the feelings stronger, for better or worse. Any trepidation you have will turn to regret and you really don't want to be in a relationship where you regret any part of it. I agree, if she can't wait, then maybe it's not meant to be. You're in a hard spot with this one. If you tell her you want to wait, all she's likely to hear is "I really don't want to do this" You mentioned med school. Do you think there might be a chance she wants to be married to a doctor her senior year or to you. Harsh words, and I apologize if it sounds mean spirited because I don't mean to be but I hate to see people make mistakes of this caliber when they're just getting started in life. Good luck __________________ 1986 four-eyed LX coupe, 358 Cleveland, Tremec TKO600/centerforce clutch, dish cut Probe forged pistons, comp cams hyd.roller cam, .579/.588@224/230, Edel.performer, 670 holley street avenger, CPR custom built long tubes, ported and polished 4bbl heads, manley valves, beehive springs, MSD peo-billet dist/MSD6AL, fluidamper, 5 lug conv. with 17x8 bullits there's more but it's still not finished yet. Oh, and the oldest boy is turning his 89 GT into a FFR cobra this next summer.