[silver_pilate]

Oh ****, man.

First off, you did the right thing. If you knew it wasn't going to work out, you were absolutely correct in breaking it off. It is NEVER cool to lead someone on. So, even though I know you hated doing it, and I know you were having a great time with her, you did the right thing.

I'm really sorry to hear what you had to go through to do it, though. It sounds like she has some real issues within herself which need to be taken care of. You behaved exactly as I would have when she started going hysterical. I don't see anything you could've done better. You were a real gentleman and obviously a good friend to care for her in her greatest time of need.

What to do now?? I suggest talking to her friends. Give her closest friend a call and let her know what's up. She doesn't need to be alone right now. It doesn't sound as if she's thinking rationally. Get her friends over there to talk to her and be with her. If I were you, I'd give her some time to cool down before I tried talking to her again. Talk with her friends. Let them tell her that you are concerned about her safety. Don't, however, let her use a threat of self-harm to guilt you back into a relationship. She needs to know that it's over. Don't give her false hopes, and try not to let this break-up drag on and on. You've ended it, so end it. Make it a definate. It's over. I know that's hard to stomach for her (maybe even for you), but if you keep lingering around in the shadows, it won't do either of you any good in getting on with your lives.

Man, I'll pray for her safety as well, and I'll pray for guidance for you in this situation. Good luck, and please, get some of her friends over there.

--nathan