Jim and Marty gave you excellent insight and advice. The only thing I'm going to add to it is this: Don't EVER change yourself for someone else. You will end up resenting them, and that will guarantee that the relationship fails. You had only the best intentions when you tried to change, but once you start, it never stops. I've been in your shoes, and know your feelings well. It eats at you 24/7. One minute you are hurt so badly, it takes your breath away, and the next minute, you are so angry that she could do this to you, you want to break things, and the next minute you are totally confused, not understanding at all how this could have happened. It sucks. But in reflection, I can see what you need to see, which is what you felt was compassion, and showing you cared, was received by her as pressure and being pushed away from you. The wisest thing you can do is going to be the hardest, and that is to let her go. Don't call, don't stop by, don't do anything. That's the only way she's ever going to decide if you are the one she wants to be with. You MUST give her the space she needs. That will mean so much more to her right now than any phone call or greeting card possibly could.
Anyway bro, I wish you nothing but the very best. I know your pain. I've been there before. Hang tough.
Take care,
-Chris
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