Sam/69Mach1:
Most of us have been throught this kind of situation at some time. 'She loves me-loves me not. It's really hard and I truly believe that it's harder on the guys. Although the girls cry a lot, guys hold it in and just tough it out - but it hurts us more, in my opinion.
I think you should let this one go but from what you've said, I suspect that you won't drop her unless she suddenly shows up with a new guy. ..which is possible although not probable.
She clearly gets bored and wants out of the relationship but then she panics over being alone and wants back in...until the next day. Enough! Playing this game (and it is a game) does neither you nor her any good. She is confused and you're hurt and neither seems to know how to 'fix' it. You can't.
This is often what happens at 16 and 17 when you 'love' other people but neither one is mature enough or experienced in life to really know what they want and how to deal with the opposite sex.
Do you really believe you'll marry this girl? Really? If not, why go through all this emotional stress at 17? There are other girls out there.
In my never-to-be-humble opinion, teen dating years should be for meeting different kinds of girls (or guys as the case may be) and by spending time together, finding out what you really want in a girl and how to treat and deal with them, as they learn how to do the same with guys.
The social pressure to make everyone a 'couple' immediately after puberty is insane and often leads to very confused teenagers who don't know what's up but yet have years of 'relationships' behind them, that come to nothing after all the tears, heartbreak and turmoil. Why? What was the point? By 25 you can't remember the name of some girl that had you losing sleep and getting all stressed out at 17. No real benefit to that.
I don't know anything about the maturity and emotional stability of your girlfriend but she sounds very typical of a young teen who is still growing emotionally as well as physically and is not at all ready for a serious 'love' relationship. Her actions certainly demonstrate this. The girl doesn't know who she is much less what she really wants in a man. That's normal. Some folks don't know at 25 or 30 but very few have that kind of maturity before college-age.
I went through this kind of turmoil at 17 and learned that I wasn't ready for these 'serious' long-term relationships and so I avoided them for quite a few years afterward. I had dates and short-term 'romances' but nothing permanent or binding until I finally met the gentle, sweet and intelligent woman who I (eventually) made my wife.
Now each of us is unique and what I've stated may not apply to you or your girlfriend, but I believe it's generally valid and worth considering.
My advice is to let this girl go, no matter what she says she wants next week or next month. You'll survive and grow from the experience, as will she. I'm not saying you can't be friendly with her or shouldn't have a another long-term relationship with someone else, just that this girl doesn't appear to be ready or able to handle it and will just drive you crazy as you attempt to 'make it work'.
Out of respect and concern for her stability and your sanity, not to 'teach her a lessor' or out of anger, give her up, let her mature and refocus your life for awhile. You'll be better for it.
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