Condolences
Mercury:
Sorry to learn of the breakup but it sounds as if it was inevitable.
You did right by being honest with Marya and breaking it off but her reaction was, well, extreme (to be kind about it). You handled that well, too, by your account and you deserve the kudos you've received for controlling that episode.
Frankly, I would leave the woman - and her friends, alone.
It's over. You did the best you could with it and handled her outrageous behavior like an adult.
Everthing can't always be 'fixed', Merc, especially other people.
You're dealing with some deep-seated problems in this lady and I can almost guarantee that you won't make things any better. Wish I could be more encouraging but I have to be honest with you here.
You usually cannot have a meaningful relationship end without someone being 'hurt' emotionally. It's unrealistic to expect that, nice as it would be for all concerned. If you mean anything to each other, you'll both be upset at a breakup. Otherwise, neither one would care much and it would end with a handshake and a hug and be forgotten.
Tend to your immediate family duties, Merc. Leave this alone for awhile and don't feel guilty. You tried, it didn't work out and you treated Marya with compassion and respect when it ended, even though she became irrational. You stayed and saw her through it. That's a man and a good guy. Know that and now move on with your life. Better days are ahead.
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