[jocatmust]

Relationships are the most difficult thing to master. I got married last Nov. and we split in Feb. This was my first marriage and on my wedding day I was nervous, but thought this was the best for me. In December, I got mad at my husband for something I find out he did right after we got engaged. I said some things to him that I did not mean. Just say, the things I said, was to make him hurt like I felt. Anyway, I didn't realize that the very thing I said was an issue for him. I guess we didn't talk enough. If I had only knew, I would not had said that. Anyway, we met last May and married in Nov. I guess we should have gave it more time. It felt the rightest thing I have ever felt. We have been split for almost three months. The only thing in sight is divorce. I still can't believe I waited a long time to find just the qualities in a husband I was looking for. to just divorce. When I finally did, and it felt right, I jumped. We (he and I ) both said and did things to each other. It is both our faults. My husband does not want to save the marriage. He is done and that is it. I honestly thought he was the type that would follow the vows and always be there and work it out. I just wanted to always know that someone, esp. my husband would always be there for me. So I guess, Spring is not so good this year. Anyway, just a note about women to all you guys. I will agree some women are just difficult. Some women are full of hormones that make us say and do things that we normally would have not done. The only advise I can have is to understand that women are not anything like men. Our bodies are different and our hormones are too. Women are not all bad, some better than others. The bottom line is to talk to each other with an open mind and not defensive attitude about how each other is feeling. Ask each other what they want and what it is in this relationship that will make you happy. If you both don't want the same things, then for both your selves move on. For those who are married and realize this, hope is not lost, compromise and learn to like what the other does. Everything can work out if you want and try real hard. In my case, I want the marriage towork and is willing to try, he is not. I can't make him want to be with me, so I have no choice but to give it closure and move on. I hope for a brighter future and to be with someone who I know that wants to be with me, understand that I am a moody hormonal woman, and will always be there( I can count on).