Son? Is that you?
Boy, I'm glad to hear that happens to other people. Lemme give you a little perspective from a father's point of view. He probably should have explained the rules of the house but I'm sure (as I did) that he thought you knew most of them and blah. . .blah.. .blah. If you live in someone's house you live by the rules. You may not agree with them but stands to reason nonetheless that is the way it is. If you don't like the rules, you move somewhere else. . as you plan to. Nobody at fault here, just a decision you have to make and stick with. For me, I wait up at night waiting for him to come home so I'll know when I go to sleep that he's safe. THe fear of that visit from the police late at night to tell you your son has been hurt or worse eats at a parent no matter who you are.
Why is it everyone under the age of 21 wants to settle everything with fists? Fathers don't do the things they do in order to start fights. They do them because they love you enough to die for you and they want you to do what is right and good with your life. (something we always fear you as kids will screw up if left to yourselves) IT's hard to watch your son make a mistake you know is going to cost him for years to come.
When it comes to wimmen. . .we were raised in an age where good girls didn't openly engage in sex and they sure as h#ll didn't let a guy sleep over with them. If they did they sure sisn't want the parents to know about it. Those who did were considered less than savory by respectable folk.
Don't get me wrong, we spent most of our lives looking for the women with loose morals but we didn't bring em home to meet Momma.
I've been going through most of the same thing with my youngest who is 18 and knows a lot more about life than I do. I haven't resorted to namecalling but I've lost a lot of respect for his lil girlfreind who seems to be fueling the fire between us every chance she gets. He made the comment about being kicked out but the truth is I love him enough to let him find out for himself how tough it is no matter how much it hurts me. ( and it does) Your dad just wants the best for you and maybe he just hasn't found the words to tell you what he feels right now. Talk to him about it. I promise he won't eat your head for wanting to talk it out. Just don't discount everything he says as wrong because you don't agree with it. Keep Mom handy too. . ..they can be great referees. Trust me I know.
[This message has been edited by oldman (edited 06-27-2001).]
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