Mustangguy
I have tried that route. No matter what, I said or did something wrong. We tried for a year to work on our communication skills. All we did was fight.
I never did anything right according to her. No matter how much Time I spent with her during the week, and anyother time, she would get so PISSED if I said "Honey, can I spend some time with the guys."
Even then, around 9 at night (When things just start to get interesting) she calls me on my cell phone and lays this guilt trip on me about not seeing her. I'd go over her house and spend the rest of the night there.
My friends were getting mad at me, my girl was getting mad at me, it was like no matter what plans I had made, and she had Okay'd earlier, she would call and expect me to drop everything to come over.
Now if it was an emergency, I would, But I hate being Jerked around like that, and I HATE DOING that to my friends/girlfriends. All I asked for was one Saturday night out of every two weeks to go racing and hang out with the guys.
She didnt trust me at all, she thought I was off running around on her. She even accused me of seeing TIM C's sister (Shes engaded and her Fiancee' hangs out with us).
Oh well. I told her how I felt, and did it as civalized and calm as possible. She just didnt seem to care, even though I bent over Backwards to make her happy.
I'm doing what I like now, well for the most part........... Given the circumstances, I feel like I'm handling things pretty good.
Maybe because I can breathe now.
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