Life: About ready to give up

I never thought I was the type to have this displayed like this,but have noone else that can listen at this time.

I'm getting to a point in my life of 28 yrs old where I'm getting tired of going no-where,tired of getting hurt by people who say they care.

I came to the reality this weekend that I will not be able to finish my car,which I've wanted to do so bad,because of having no garage and a father who will not allow me to use his garage because of so many projects that he has himself.I have a car with potential and I can't do anything about it,I'm stuck.

I have a girlfriend who would just as soon play a game online then she would talk to me anymore,which tears me up inside.I'm getting to a point in my life where I dont know how much more hurt I can take.

I have a hard time posting here anymore because I see all of you make progress while I'm stuck.

I keep tryin to keep my head up,but am losing the battle

[Mr 5 0]

Mustanguy:

Well, other than saying "This sucks" I don't have much specific advice, except that it's obvious that you need to take more control of your life but you also understand that there are many things that you cannot control, primarily, other people and how they feel or what they do.

You can't control your girlfriends feelings for you (or lack of them) so I would consider moving on from her and seeking someone who wants to be with you, rather than hanging around waiting for her to make time for you, but that's for you to decide; I'm just shooting from the hip here, with no personal knowledge of the history or dynamics between you two. Still, it sounds like it's time for you to go. No one is irreplacable.

As for finishing the car; you can't control your dad's decision to not let you use his garage space for now, but you might look for other space, like renting a garage.

The point is that you need to be (excuse the buzzword) 'proactive'. You need to feel more in control and you can do that by simply making some decisions and acting on them; without having to depend on a girlfriend, father, boss or buddy to agree or help or whatever. The decisions don't have to be life-changing, either. Do some smaller mods to the Mustang that don't require a garage, buy some new clothes, take a week-end vacation - alone - where you decide where to go and what to do, that kind of thing. It will help.

Finally; you have to decide to be happy. Deal with the problems as necessary but decide to enjoy your life and not let the negative stuff derail you to the point where you're miserable and unhappy. You have youth, health and lots more going for you, and you have the freedom to do as you please in this great country, so use the freedom - make some decisions and keep moving ahead with your life, despite what others say or do. Don't let the crap get you down for long and that way, you 'win'. Works for me.

[NoSlow5.0]

Mustangguy, I wish i knew your name.

I can empathise(sp) with you totally. I was in a hole just like yours, and i'm sure a lot of the others here were and still are also. Just take a step back and reevaluate the world for a minute. You are down, your girl is playing games, and you can't work on your car. There might be some more problems, but i don't know. These are not that serious, in fact they are pretty minor. You are just in a slump. I agree with Mr. 5.0 totally. Take a vacation by yourself, forget all the worries of life for a while and try to see the big picture. There is a whole world out there and every thing it offers IS within your reach if you only want it and will make it yours! Being stuck in the same place your whole life, or a large part of it, can really deplete your sense of self worth and adventure. Maby you should think about a carreer change, or moving somewhere different. Get out and enjoy life and the world. If you believe in your self and have confidence some lucky girl willnotice you and realize what a great guy you are. It will all fall into place and before you know it you will be on top of the world and be truly open and free. It has taken me years to figure this out. And i just live life tthe way I want it to be. I don't place rules and restrictions opn myself, i do what i feel, be spontanious, different. Don't let yourself get caught up in the rat race, be jimmy buffet. The world is yours, go get it. I hope this makes some sense. Good luck in whatever you choose. And remember, you always have a HUGE family here at the works. Take care. Jonathan

[This message has been edited by NoSlow5.0 (edited 07-08-2001).]

[Mercury]

Mustang Guy.

I understand where your coming from, I thought fall and winter were the Depression periods, seems like were all having a down and out summer instead.

28, thats still plenty young, you have a whole life ahead of you. Things may be bad now, but look on the bright side. You have a car that has potential, others do not, hell some people dont even have cars.

I know how frustrating it is not to be able to get your projects done in time, or the time that you want to do them. Its kinda like waiting 3 weeks to get a part you oredered, but 10 times worse.

The Girlfriend thing, talk to her about it, tell her how you feel. If she doesnt react or start to change things, its time to take your heart back from her (thats a hard part) Tell her things just arent right between you all and let her go man.

Me and my Girlfriend are working out and walking through alot of problems now, were int eh proccess of patching things back up. Its going to take a while but I think It will be worth it.

Look for the little things in the day that do go right, and that do bring some happiness. Anything from watching a little kid picking his nose at the mall, or those dorky ricers thinkinng there cool. Take notice of anything that may put a smile on your face.

Let your imigination take you away some times, like something that works for me, is looking up at the star filled night sky and imagining what the planets around some of those star may be like, or imagining a black hole tearing apart and cannabalizing a companion star, or look at the moon and imagine yourself there with the first moon landing. Anything to make the day better.

Works for me, but then again I have a strange imagination, and twisted sense of humor (Somewhat childish in a way)

I know my car is a part of me also, and when Diane (64 1/2 with 289) was down and out for a few months because of 3 burnt valves, I felt down also.

If you need to talk to someone, hell, E-mail me, I always have time to help other people.

[Mach 1]

Funny you should mention 28 years old. I went through a deep depression at 28 years old. It lasted for about one year and I was wondering if I would ever feel better again.

Now Im 33, have my own garage, a beautiful wife, and Im a lot happier. It can happen to you too, so dont ever give up.

Remember, tough times dont last, tough people do.

Decide what you dont like about your life, and try to change it for the better. Work on something within your reach now, and slowly things will change. I made a move from New York State to Georgia, and my life changed almost instantly for the better, so yes, sometimes a move or a new job can lead the way.
It could happen tomorrow, so hang tough.

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1993 GT/AOD
'93 Mustang GT

[95mustanggt]

28, you've got 3 more years on this planet than I do, but here's my spin on things.

Always try to look at the positive things in your life. My car, I'm pretty much giving up on having it how I want it, for now.

If I thought about the negative things in my life, I could almost give up too (trust me here). But I like to think about the positive things, my new job, my wife, etc. By focusing on the positive you will empower yourself to change the negative.

And you can change those negative things in your life.

[69fastback]

I feel ur pain brother. Just find somewhere else to work on the mustang. I can't even work on my mustang it is a few thousand miles away it sucks. As for the girl find someone that just wants to be with u. There is a bitter side to things.

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69 428 cobra jet: tons of mods.
97 f-150 5.4 xlt mark III
BUCKLE UP. SUCK IT IN.
Objects in the mirror are about to disappear...
QUICKLY!!!!!!

[Dark_5.0]

Cheer up dude Your life isnt so bad.

So your girlfriend pays you no attention well maybe its time for you to move on.
Maybe its time you stop your own bleeding.
You dont always have to eat $hit sometimes its OK to dish it out.

So your dad doesnt let you use his garage, I am in the same boat my brother and my dad have some sort of special Chevy bond and they are always hogging the garage. I dont cry about it I just work on my car in the driveway.

You think that you have it bad there is all kinds of stuff that I would like to get for my stang but being the nice guy that I am I just keep on buying stuff for my girlfriends CRX I just last month purchased a 645.00 dollar body kit that I am now having to spend time putting it on instead of working on my stang.

You think that you have it bad just imagine,
Please just try to imagine.......
MY GIRLFRIEND IS A RICER now that sucks..!!

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