How would I prove this???

Stang_Crazy · 02-13-2002, 04:10 PM

My girlfriend and I broke up last weekend. This time, for good. Anyway, we were at my house when I told her that I wanted to end it. She said "fine" and ran back up the stairs for something. She came back down with MY electric razor (but not the charger), a framed picture of my last car (91 GT) and my current car (89 GT), then she went into the garage and took a framed airbrush of my 91 GT, and she also took two liscense plates that were airbrushed and framed. Here's the problem... All of these things were gifts from her to me (except the razor. I bought that with my own money) I got the big airbrish (91 GT) for chistmas last year and I got the other things this year for christmas and my birthday.

These pictures meant alot to me (thats why they were all framed) and now she refuses to give them back. Hell, she said the only reason she took the razor was so I couldn't use it...WTF?!? Anyway, I want to try and get my stuff back but I don't want to get into a war with her. Should I try and get it back or should I just cut my losses and move on??

Stang_Crazy · 02-13-2002, 04:12 PM

Oh yea, I fogot about my original question

If I were to try and get my things back, how could I prove that they were given as gifts?

VNAMUS in VA · 02-13-2002, 04:23 PM

Dude! WTF?!? Why your razor?? Is she growing a beard?!?

I don't know of a sure fire way to prove they were gifts. It's kinda your word against hers, I think. You could take her to Judge Judy...I saw an episode with this same type of deal and she decided in favor of the receiver of the gifts.

You're only a few hours away from here....need me to come smack her?

I can't believe she took all that stuff.........that's just mean.

Mr 5 0 · 02-13-2002, 04:23 PM

Stang_Crazy:

Legally, once someone gives you a gift, it's yours. However, this is just a emotional response from an upset girl and really not worth the hassle, as I see it.

You can replace all of these things and the razor - while technically theft - isn't worth the trouble. She's probably trying to both annoy you and yet keep a link to you by grabbing your stuff; my guess is that she saw this breakup coming and had this planned out, but be that as it may, my advice - since you asked for opinions - is to let it go., along with her.

Some day in the future she may see the futility of taking these things and give them back (if she hasn't destroyed them by then) but don't count on it. She sounds rather vindictive. Move on without her.

95mustanggt · 02-13-2002, 04:35 PM

You might want to try and get some of the stuff back but if it comes to a war, don't bother. She could always key your car and stuff. Just worrying about that kind of stuff isn't worth it. Not to mention if she did!

Mr. 5.0 is right, she's trying to punish you and keep a connection there. Just ignore her and pretend the items have no value - then you're the ultimate winner!! That will drive her crazy!! Trust me.

mustangdani55 · 02-13-2002, 05:02 PM

Ditto

Listen to MR. 5. 0

Him a very smart man.....

Stang_Crazy · 02-13-2002, 06:58 PM

95mustanggt: To answer you, it has already come to a war. But not between me and her. Between her and my sister. But in the war, my ex keyed my old car (91 GT) while my sister had it at her work. So the worst has already happened.

Damn...I can't believe what I put up with...It's time to move on. I know she just took the stuff so she could have a little piece of me. Well, looks like I'm single again...time to spend some time with my REAL baby. The one with four wheels. The one that always listens to me. The one that is always ready to go out and have fun!

SilverPoet · 02-14-2002, 01:21 AM

Sounds like much to much work, time, trouble and emotional effort to waste on her.

Let it go, look foward to new things. hehe...at least, as you said, you know that your car is always there for you (even when it's in a bad mood).

1969Mach1 · 02-14-2002, 07:02 AM

Yeh, I woudn't involve the law into this. Maybe try talking to her and explaining your relationship and how you got to this decision. Tell her that she still means alot to you just you weren't the right kind of people for each other. And say you would like the pictures back because they mean alot to you, of all the good times and memories and that she will never be forgoton. Tell her don't be mad cause it's over, be happy because it happen. I don't know your girlfriend but if she is reasonable try this and maybe she'll understand. She is probably just abit upset right now. When I broke up with my g/f 2 weeks ago

she wanted to give me all the stuff I gave her back. But I wouldn't let her, I told her it was a gift for her and what she wanted to do with it from there was her choice.

Take Care & Good Luck,
§am.

95mustanggt · 02-14-2002, 10:00 AM

Well, cut your losses and get out. It is not worth the hassle. If your sister is involved, try to keep her from doing something silly.

Best to move on and find another girl!

srv1 · 02-14-2002, 06:57 PM

isn't possesion 9/10's of the law?

Godslayer · 02-14-2002, 07:00 PM

If you ever gave her anything, take it back. If she's going to be a knob, you should be one too.

If you ask me, you gotta tell this woman that you don't take kindly to having your stuff taken. If people steal from me, there is always hell to pay. I work hard for my stuff and no one is going to take it if I can help it.

I noticed you didn't mention anything about taking anything back from her. I'm sure you have given her things that she wouldn't take kindly to having you take back.

I agree, there are somethings that you have to let go, but this is not one of them. Vengeance!!

Road Rage · 02-14-2002, 07:49 PM

If it were me, I would take the high road - there is enough anger in the world. Plus, is tends to escalate, the next thing you know your car is keyed.

On the loegal side, you have a good case. Small claims is common sense jurisprudence, and any judge worth a darn would realize that women seldomly frame pictures of their boyfriends car for their use - it is clearly a gift, and conveys to you as your personal prorperty.

02-13-2002, 04:10 PM	#1
Stang_Crazy It's never clean enough! Join Date: Jan 1999 Location: Shaler, PA Posts: 1,542	How would I prove this??? My girlfriend and I broke up last weekend. This time, for good. Anyway, we were at my house when I told her that I wanted to end it. She said "fine" and ran back up the stairs for something. She came back down with MY electric razor (but not the charger), a framed picture of my last car (91 GT) and my current car (89 GT), then she went into the garage and took a framed airbrush of my 91 GT, and she also took two liscense plates that were airbrushed and framed. Here's the problem... All of these things were gifts from her to me (except the razor. I bought that with my own money) I got the big airbrish (91 GT) for chistmas last year and I got the other things this year for christmas and my birthday. These pictures meant alot to me (thats why they were all framed) and now she refuses to give them back. Hell, she said the only reason she took the razor was so I couldn't use it...WTF?!? Anyway, I want to try and get my stuff back but I don't want to get into a war with her. Should I try and get it back or should I just cut my losses and move on?? __________________ ~Dan 2001 SVT Lightning 89' GT : Taking up garage space and waiting for a buyer... Rice Hater's Club - Member #11

02-13-2002, 04:12 PM	#2
Stang_Crazy It's never clean enough! Join Date: Jan 1999 Location: Shaler, PA Posts: 1,542	Oh yea, I fogot about my original question If I were to try and get my things back, how could I prove that they were given as gifts? __________________ ~Dan 2001 SVT Lightning 89' GT : Taking up garage space and waiting for a buyer... Rice Hater's Club - Member #11

02-13-2002, 04:23 PM	#3
VNAMUS in VA Registered Member Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Reston, Virginia, USA Posts: 134	What a crackhead! Dude! WTF?!? Why your razor?? Is she growing a beard?!? I don't know of a sure fire way to prove they were gifts. It's kinda your word against hers, I think. You could take her to Judge Judy...I saw an episode with this same type of deal and she decided in favor of the receiver of the gifts. You're only a few hours away from here....need me to come smack her? I can't believe she took all that stuff.........that's just mean. __________________ 1998 Cobra, Black/Black

02-13-2002, 04:23 PM	#4
Mr 5 0 Conservative Individualist Join Date: May 1997 Location: Wherever I need to be Posts: 7,487	Let it go Stang_Crazy: Legally, once someone gives you a gift, it's yours. However, this is just a emotional response from an upset girl and really not worth the hassle, as I see it. You can replace all of these things and the razor - while technically theft - isn't worth the trouble. She's probably trying to both annoy you and yet keep a link to you by grabbing your stuff; my guess is that she saw this breakup coming and had this planned out, but be that as it may, my advice - since you asked for opinions - is to let it go., along with her. Some day in the future she may see the futility of taking these things and give them back (if she hasn't destroyed them by then) but don't count on it. She sounds rather vindictive. Move on without her.

02-13-2002, 04:35 PM	#5
95mustanggt Registered Member Join Date: May 2000 Location: Kamloops, BC Posts: 2,875	You might want to try and get some of the stuff back but if it comes to a war, don't bother. She could always key your car and stuff. Just worrying about that kind of stuff isn't worth it. Not to mention if she did! Mr. 5.0 is right, she's trying to punish you and keep a connection there. Just ignore her and pretend the items have no value - then you're the ultimate winner!! That will drive her crazy!! Trust me. __________________ 1995 Mustang GT 20016 F150 Lariat Super Crew

02-13-2002, 05:02 PM	#6
mustangdani55 Registered Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana USA Posts: 334	Ditto Listen to MR. 5. 0 Him a very smart man..... __________________ It makes people wonder what you've been up to!

02-13-2002, 06:58 PM	#7
Stang_Crazy It's never clean enough! Join Date: Jan 1999 Location: Shaler, PA Posts: 1,542	95mustanggt 95mustanggt: To answer you, it has already come to a war. But not between me and her. Between her and my sister. But in the war, my ex keyed my old car (91 GT) while my sister had it at her work. So the worst has already happened. Damn...I can't believe what I put up with...It's time to move on. I know she just took the stuff so she could have a little piece of me. Well, looks like I'm single again...time to spend some time with my REAL baby. The one with four wheels. The one that always listens to me. The one that is always ready to go out and have fun! __________________ ~Dan 2001 SVT Lightning 89' GT : Taking up garage space and waiting for a buyer... Rice Hater's Club - Member #11

02-14-2002, 01:21 AM	#8
SilverPoet Registered Member Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Brooklyn Center, MN Posts: 21	Sounds like much to much work, time, trouble and emotional effort to waste on her. Let it go, look foward to new things. hehe...at least, as you said, you know that your car is always there for you (even when it's in a bad mood).

02-14-2002, 07:02 AM	#9
1969Mach1 HEY I CAN SET A NAME NOW! Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,556	Yeh, I woudn't involve the law into this. Maybe try talking to her and explaining your relationship and how you got to this decision. Tell her that she still means alot to you just you weren't the right kind of people for each other. And say you would like the pictures back because they mean alot to you, of all the good times and memories and that she will never be forgoton. Tell her don't be mad cause it's over, be happy because it happen. I don't know your girlfriend but if she is reasonable try this and maybe she'll understand. She is probably just abit upset right now. When I broke up with my g/f 2 weeks ago she wanted to give me all the stuff I gave her back. But I wouldn't let her, I told her it was a gift for her and what she wanted to do with it from there was her choice. Take Care & Good Luck, §am. __________________ 1969 Mustang Mach 1Sold 351-4V Windsor, 4 Speed MACH 1 - Moving At The Speed Of Sound. 1979 Mustang Indianapolis 500 Pace Car For Sale - Email me for Info 302-2V, 3-Speed Auto One of 2,106 made One of 405 sent to Canada. Yes those are caution lights, and No you can't pass me when there on. Ricer Hater's Club - Member #4

02-14-2002, 10:00 AM	#10
95mustanggt Registered Member Join Date: May 2000 Location: Kamloops, BC Posts: 2,875	Well, cut your losses and get out. It is not worth the hassle. If your sister is involved, try to keep her from doing something silly. Best to move on and find another girl! __________________ 1995 Mustang GT 20016 F150 Lariat Super Crew

02-14-2002, 06:57 PM	#11
srv1 Get down..... Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Room 103 Posts: 2,095	*no its MINE!, no its not, its MINE! &%!** isn't possesion 9/10's of the law? __________________ Cobra brakes are on! Finally..... ------------------------------------------------

02-14-2002, 07:00 PM	#12
Godslayer Registered Member Join Date: Mar 1999 Location: Largo, FL USA Posts: 274	hehe If you ever gave her anything, take it back. If she's going to be a knob, you should be one too. If you ask me, you gotta tell this woman that you don't take kindly to having your stuff taken. If people steal from me, there is always hell to pay. I work hard for my stuff and no one is going to take it if I can help it. I noticed you didn't mention anything about taking anything back from her. I'm sure you have given her things that she wouldn't take kindly to having you take back. I agree, there are somethings that you have to let go, but this is not one of them. Vengeance!! __________________ Negative Mustang @ present time.

02-14-2002, 07:49 PM	#13
Road Rage Registered Member Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Richmond, Virginia Posts: 12	If it were me, I would take the high road - there is enough anger in the world. Plus, is tends to escalate, the next thing you know your car is keyed. On the loegal side, you have a good case. Small claims is common sense jurisprudence, and any judge worth a darn would realize that women seldomly frame pictures of their boyfriends car for their use - it is clearly a gift, and conveys to you as your personal prorperty. __________________ Rage

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