GIRLFRIEND = PROBLEMS (part 2)

[quick89gt]

Well, as many of you know, a month ago, I put up a post about problems I was having with my girlfriend. I'll refresh your memory really quick. She had met me, moved here from california, and we were together for about 3.5 months, when we started fighting and she said she wanted her space, and that she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. Well, here's the update:
We tried it again, but then something happened between mutual friends to where it would have made it really hard for it to work b/c she hated my friend and I hated her friend. So, we broke up again. Well, then we date other people, and I couldn't handle that b/c I still love her, and she still loves me. Now, she is unhappy here in Illinois, and is moving back to California on the 26th of February, that's less than 2 weeks away, and I can't stand the thought of losing her. She told me that her and her ex-boyfriend out there are going to try it again, and I'm mad that I never had a fair shot, and that too many constraints were on our relationship due to her jealous *** friend that she lived with, who tried to dictate her life and made her feel guilty for spending time w/ me. Anyways...it hurts bad, and I am dreading the day she leaves. Any advice???? Sorry it's so long, but that was the broken down version of what happened.
josh

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[btr]

Her and her ex-boyfriend in CA???? Looks like she's had a safety net all along. Not much of a g/f in my opinion if she is keeping touch with other guys. You're better off w/o her.

[Unit 5302]

Dude, actually I think this is like Part III isn't it?

Anyway, to be blunt, nothing has changed, and I can't see anything changing the way you want it to. My advice is still the same.

Let her go, get together with friends, have fun, do what you like, maybe meet another girl.

[95GTS]

Josh, I have to agree with the others. Especially btr. He's right. Sounds like she's had her ex hanging around for backups (ol' reliable?). I've been there before and it sucks azz. Take Unit's advice. I'd just move on and find another woman. She's out there. Just from what you have said it doesn't sound like she's really been in this thing with ya'll. You'll feel better when you back to chasing women. I just went thru a sh*itty break up, myself. Sorry, dude. Just head over to Hooters. Take your mind off of it.

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1996 Mustang GTS

[Josh91]

I agree with the others. You are better off without her.

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[joe4speed]

I agree... Let her go... She will be the one who loses here... as it was said, she has had this saftey net the whole time and you knew nothing about it.. you don't want this! Just go out and keep yourself busy, things will get better!

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[MY91GT]

Do you really want someone who would consider getting back with their ex-boyfriend? I would hope not. If her train of thought is along those lines, I really dont see yourself being happy with someone with that and fully trusting her. I would just try to move on. I know it hard cuz my girlfriend of 3.5 years almost broke up b/c of her mom and the thought of losing her was devastating, but life goes on and it doesnt wait for anyone. Just my 2 cents. E-mail me if you wanna chat.


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[Fox Body]

I will kinda have agree with the others on many of their points.

But also, of course, there is really no way for us to know exactly how you feel about her and all the details (not asking for them--just saying). Have you ever sat down with her and discussed this issue w/o starting a verbal fight and placing blame on stupid little issues in the past? If you really, really think she's worth the effort (at the same time understanding that yes, she may not be the one for you), then go for it. But I would at least sit down with her when there is no one else around for at least 30 minutes and discuss the issue with her. Make your judgement off that. Take in all the verbal and nonverbal dimensions coming from her and use common sense.

No girl is worth screwing up your mind!! Hope it works out. That means whichever way is best for you.

[Try Me]

A word of info to all the guys out there - the girl only bails if she has someone else lined up (hence, the ex-boyfriend) or has someone in mind she's gonna line up with.

[Godslayer]

I agree with Try Me. Girls almost always have someone else lined up before they bail. Most of them (no offense to any female members), are attention whores and can't stand being alone. Hence why they will stay in a sh!tty relationships. I agree with everyone else and say move on. If she's had her ex on the burner, then you have no way of trusting her. Relationships are like trains. They move ahead, not backward. Don't waste your time, there are so many girls who would appreciate you.

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[Mach 1]

I have noticed the same thing with woman, there is always someone else when they leave you. Kind of interesting, and just makes me lose that much more respect for woman.

They just use men, pretty pathetic, but i am a harsh judge of character.

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