Why Me?

mustangdani55 · 11-20-2001, 12:29 PM

Well guys, I just need a man who isn't emotionally dead!

Here I go again...I know what all of you are gonna say, it's nothing I haven't said to myself...time after time...but...here goes.

My car broke down in early September; alternator went out. I lost my job because he couldn't or wouldn't do anything to help me and I needed $$$ to get what I needed. I found another job fter he actually let me drive one of his cars...Ohhhh! My car is still down.

A very good friend of mine gave me an alternator for my car and called dumba$$ to see if he could throw my battery on the charger so I can drive it here to replace the part. His response was; 'When I can make the time'. I said, "Never mind, I'll have it towed here so I can fix it". Then I finished with "Do you really hate me that much that you can't do anything for me at all?"

Was I wrong? I've learned (after two years) that if I ask him to do something for me he never has time...but one of his ex's calls and he's right on it. I hurt my back the other day and I was in bed - 9:30.
He actually expected me to get up out of bed and go to the store to get him food and cook it; knowing full well that I could hardly walk. When I said "No", he replied; "Why am I in a relationship, anyway?" I said; "You're not in a relationship, I am, and it's only me - only one-sided".

Got to leave this guy.

Thanks for letting me vent. It helps, and so do all of you.

Coupe Devil · 11-20-2001, 12:47 PM

Heres how to solve your problem. Move to west ky with me. If you could only hear the conversations I've had with Mustangmom347 lately. As she has told me time and time again there is someone out there perfect for you. It's just a battle trying to find them sometimes. Trust me. You'll find them, it just may take a while.
Brad

mustangdani55 · 11-20-2001, 02:07 PM

well i know i need to get out and i will. situation right now not feasable. its a $$ thing you understand. i should have never gone back for the second time. as my old boss told me a few minutes ago ..DUMBA$$.... maybe i need to correspond with mustangmom347. no actually i know i gotta get the hell out, i just don't have the cash to do that right now and moving in with friends is not an option.

Crazy Horse GT · 11-20-2001, 02:33 PM

you need to go from that crap 3 day's ago you are being so used it's un real, i know im a guy but jesus -c get out you are living with the worst a$$hole ive ever heard of, yes i dont know his side but how much are you going to take, stop it now,sorry im not flaming you at all but it's crazy to keep living this way, if you call it living run girl run i hope you get gone before it gets worse and it will trust me i know from some of my in -laws esp from indy no dis to good guy's from indy, you need to go, like yesterday, take care .

----- danni take a good hard look at your self esteem , i would rather be alone anyday than go through all that.

topless tire fryer · 11-20-2001, 03:42 PM

We're not all a**holes (guys), so ship the looser.

1969Mach1 · 11-20-2001, 03:50 PM

I agree with topless tire fryer, not all guys are jerks. Nice ones are out there, you just got to find the one for you. No one deserves someone who doesn't appreciate them. I say dump him.

Godslayer · 11-20-2001, 04:17 PM

Sounds like you already know what you need to do. You just need to implement it. Good luck.

Unit 5302 · 11-20-2001, 06:43 PM

Agreed. What a dick. Guys like that deserve to be alone.

69fastback · 11-20-2001, 08:29 PM

what a complete loser this guy is. It seems like all the butt holes always have the g/fs. Damn just pick up and leave. U don't deserve any of that. Like i said before this guy only wants u around to cook and to clean. That is not a relationship u are just a maid. Try and win the lotery or something get some money. Well i wish u luck hang in there until u can get the hell out of there. Just dont do anything for him anymore and show him how it feels.

srv1 · 11-20-2001, 10:46 PM

listen sweetheart, you got to drop the zero and get with the hero! come on! you KNOW what you have to do. you KNOW its the RIGHT thing to do, but..... you question yourself over and over to see if you are wrong. that is why you are asking us for our opinion. your not wrong for what you want to do. reguardless of the sex, it shouldnt be tolerated! i swear all the scumbag, degenerate, low life, heartless bastards get the good women. all of us guys here are still scratching our heads.....

what do you need to get your car going?

Fox Body · 11-20-2001, 10:50 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by 69fastback
what a complete loser this guy is. It seems like all the butt holes always have the g/fs....

Man, that is sooo true.

Please don't waste time with such a dork. Don't let him drag you down. He's a total waste of time and if you let him take advantage of you, he will.

TXinPA · 11-20-2001, 11:05 PM

Looks like it's time to find the big glowing exit sign. If you are lucky it will be on the forehead of a respectable guy who will care about you and appreciate you. Good luck though, they're getting rare.

joe4speed · 11-21-2001, 03:18 AM

Get out while you can!!!
Easier said than done, but there is light at the end of that tunnel! Good luck!

Mercury · 11-21-2001, 03:38 AM

I'm not a jerk, I'm a nice guy. Well, I think I am, but I'm probably wrong.

Why has it been such a bad season for relationships. Fall and Winter are times when Relationships are supossed to flourish.

This guy sound like a complete and utter A$$. What the hell is his problem. I mean I'm lazy and all, but nowhere near as bad as he sound. Why would he go running at the call of his Ex's? Drop him like a Lead ballon. Make like a tree and leave. I know this is easier said than done, but dont let money be the only thing that keeps you two together.

Who knows how long you might stay with him if your worried about money. Dont procrastinate, find a way to leave his butt.

Wish every thing turns out okay.

mustangdani55 · 11-21-2001, 10:13 AM

like i said before ..thanks. yep i know what i have to do. you all are really supportive.

merc... i have corresponded with you before on your latest relationship and it is allllwwwaaayyysss NICE people like us get the $hit.

srv... don't really need anything to do the car. just $$ and everything else is taken care of ...i'm thinkin 306, 370 gears and maybe a 2200 stahl.. what do you think?

srv1 · 11-21-2001, 10:24 AM

yeah the stall sounds about right. the gears is iffy. maybe 4.10's since you got an auto?! i was told 4.10's work well on the auto's with a stall.

mustangdani55 · 11-21-2001, 10:33 AM

yeah 4.10 may be o.k. but what will that do to my fuel economy? i'm not driving it on the strip... just want a little grocery getter that will kick a$$ on the street if she has to. actually i only need a stock 302. but when guys see a chick in a stang. they always want to race and i have to, cause my foot twitches on the pedal like i'm coming off the line and i lose it and here we go!!!! i'm sure you know what i mean.

PKRWUD · 11-21-2001, 10:42 AM

dani-
You know your way around a Sprint car, which puts you miles above the rest, IMHO. Save your funds and bail. Do you have any family members who could spot you the money to get out sooner? In the mean time, keep trying to talk your Sprint car owner into letting you drive next season! Our Main Events pay $1000 to win, and the SCRA boys get $2500 to win. If you're a natural, you could pick up some healthy rent money on the weekends!

Best to you.

Take care,
-Chris

11-20-2001, 12:29 PM	#1
mustangdani55 Registered Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana USA Posts: 334	Why Me? Well guys, I just need a man who isn't emotionally dead! Here I go again...I know what all of you are gonna say, it's nothing I haven't said to myself...time after time...but...here goes. My car broke down in early September; alternator went out. I lost my job because he couldn't or wouldn't do anything to help me and I needed $$$ to get what I needed. I found another job fter he actually let me drive one of his cars...Ohhhh! My car is still down. A very good friend of mine gave me an alternator for my car and called dumba$$ to see if he could throw my battery on the charger so I can drive it here to replace the part. His response was; 'When I can make the time'. I said, "Never mind, I'll have it towed here so I can fix it". Then I finished with "Do you really hate me that much that you can't do anything for me at all?" Was I wrong? I've learned (after two years) that if I ask him to do something for me he never has time...but one of his ex's calls and he's right on it. I hurt my back the other day and I was in bed - 9:30. He actually expected me to get up out of bed and go to the store to get him food and cook it; knowing full well that I could hardly walk. When I said "No", he replied; "Why am I in a relationship, anyway?" I said; "You're not in a relationship, I am, and it's only me - only one-sided". Got to leave this guy. Thanks for letting me vent. It helps, and so do all of you.

11-20-2001, 12:47 PM	#2
Coupe Devil Moderator Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Myrtle Beach SC Posts: 1,643	Heres how to solve your problem. Move to west ky with me. If you could only hear the conversations I've had with Mustangmom347 lately. As she has told me time and time again there is someone out there perfect for you. It's just a battle trying to find them sometimes. Trust me. You'll find them, it just may take a while. Brad __________________ 1990 GT, 347, TFS TW Heads, TFS Cam, TFS Track heat, Twin turbos, FMIC, T5. Built Ford Tough Moderator

11-20-2001, 02:33 PM	#4
Crazy Horse GT Registered Member Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Sale Creek, TN. C. S. A. Posts: 4,652	you need to go from that crap 3 day's ago you are being so used it's un real, i know im a guy but jesus -c get out you are living with the worst a$$hole ive ever heard of, yes i dont know his side but how much are you going to take, stop it now,sorry im not flaming you at all but it's crazy to keep living this way, if you call it living run girl run i hope you get gone before it gets worse and it will trust me i know from some of my in -laws esp from indy no dis to good guy's from indy, you need to go, like yesterday, take care .----- danni take a good hard look at your self esteem , i would rather be alone anyday than go through all that. __________________ 95 gt vert, lot's of stuff, it aint slow. 04 sonic blue v - six my beater 89 rs camaro iroc turbo hood, other stuff, my wifes ride 84 lx stang cammed up 289 hi po, etc 65 falcon, maybe by the year 2020. black 00gt, gone but never forgotten. R H C- member # 1 o.b.c. da prez- member # 1 if your under 40 dont ask. goodbye for now odie,r.i.p. 11-27-03 Last edited by Crazy Horse GT; 11-20-2001 at 02:42 PM..

11-20-2001, 03:42 PM	#5
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11-20-2001, 03:50 PM	#6
1969Mach1 HEY I CAN SET A NAME NOW! Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,556	I agree with topless tire fryer, not all guys are jerks. Nice ones are out there, you just got to find the one for you. No one deserves someone who doesn't appreciate them. I say dump him. __________________ 1969 Mustang Mach 1Sold 351-4V Windsor, 4 Speed MACH 1 - Moving At The Speed Of Sound. 1979 Mustang Indianapolis 500 Pace Car For Sale - Email me for Info 302-2V, 3-Speed Auto One of 2,106 made One of 405 sent to Canada. Yes those are caution lights, and No you can't pass me when there on. Ricer Hater's Club - Member #4

11-20-2001, 02:07 PM	#3
mustangdani55 Registered Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana USA Posts: 334	well i know i need to get out and i will. situation right now not feasable. its a $$ thing you understand. i should have never gone back for the second time. as my old boss told me a few minutes ago ..DUMBA$$.... maybe i need to correspond with mustangmom347. no actually i know i gotta get the hell out, i just don't have the cash to do that right now and moving in with friends is not an option.

11-20-2001, 04:17 PM	#7
Godslayer Registered Member Join Date: Mar 1999 Location: Largo, FL USA Posts: 274	well... Sounds like you already know what you need to do. You just need to implement it. Good luck. __________________ Negative Mustang @ present time.

11-20-2001, 06:43 PM	#8
Unit 5302 Registered Member Join Date: May 1999 Posts: 5,246	Agreed. What a dick. Guys like that deserve to be alone.

11-20-2001, 08:29 PM	#9
69fastback IRAQ VET Join Date: Feb 2000 Location: high desert California Posts: 1,480	what a complete loser this guy is. It seems like all the butt holes always have the g/fs. Damn just pick up and leave. U don't deserve any of that. Like i said before this guy only wants u around to cook and to clean. That is not a relationship u are just a maid. Try and win the lotery or something get some money. Well i wish u luck hang in there until u can get the hell out of there. Just dont do anything for him anymore and show him how it feels. __________________ 428 Cobra Jet SOHC 5.4 3V F-150 96 mystic cobra 91 GT

11-20-2001, 10:46 PM	#10
srv1 Get down..... Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Room 103 Posts: 2,095	New York is available:D listen sweetheart, you got to drop the zero and get with the hero! come on! you KNOW what you have to do. you KNOW its the RIGHT thing to do, but..... you question yourself over and over to see if you are wrong. that is why you are asking us for our opinion. your not wrong for what you want to do. reguardless of the sex, it shouldnt be tolerated! i swear all the scumbag, degenerate, low life, heartless bastards get the good women. all of us guys here are still scratching our heads..... what do you need to get your car going? __________________ Cobra brakes are on! Finally..... ------------------------------------------------

11-20-2001, 11:05 PM	#12
TXinPA Registered Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Posts: 120	Looks like it's time to find the big glowing exit sign. If you are lucky it will be on the forehead of a respectable guy who will care about you and appreciate you. Good luck though, they're getting rare. __________________ 1985 Mustang GT 5.0 5spd-light regatta blue 1985 Mustang 4cyl auto- jalapeno red 1993 Miata- White w/black

11-21-2001, 03:18 AM	#13
joe4speed He said Member...heh, heh Join Date: Sep 1999 Location: Jupiter, Florida U.S.A. Posts: 3,718	Get out while you can!!! Easier said than done, but there is light at the end of that tunnel! Good luck! __________________ *Joe!* 1988 GT, 13.58@101mph Check out my listing! Click here! Or my website:www.joe4speed.com

11-21-2001, 03:38 AM	#14
Mercury The Redneck James Bond Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: Fayetteville NC Posts: 1,707	I'm not a jerk, I'm a nice guy. Well, I think I am, but I'm probably wrong. Why has it been such a bad season for relationships. Fall and Winter are times when Relationships are supossed to flourish. This guy sound like a complete and utter A$$. What the hell is his problem. I mean I'm lazy and all, but nowhere near as bad as he sound. Why would he go running at the call of his Ex's? Drop him like a Lead ballon. Make like a tree and leave. I know this is easier said than done, but dont let money be the only thing that keeps you two together. Who knows how long you might stay with him if your worried about money. Dont procrastinate, find a way to leave his butt. Wish every thing turns out okay.

11-21-2001, 10:13 AM	#15
mustangdani55 Registered Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana USA Posts: 334	like i said before ..thanks. yep i know what i have to do. you all are really supportive. merc... i have corresponded with you before on your latest relationship and it is allllwwwaaayyysss NICE people like us get the $hit. srv... don't really need anything to do the car. just $$ and everything else is taken care of ...i'm thinkin 306, 370 gears and maybe a 2200 stahl.. what do you think?

11-21-2001, 10:24 AM	#16
srv1 Get down..... Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Room 103 Posts: 2,095	yeah the stall sounds about right. the gears is iffy. maybe 4.10's since you got an auto?! i was told 4.10's work well on the auto's with a stall. __________________ Cobra brakes are on! Finally..... ------------------------------------------------

11-21-2001, 10:33 AM	#17
mustangdani55 Registered Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana USA Posts: 334	yeah 4.10 may be o.k. but what will that do to my fuel economy? i'm not driving it on the strip... just want a little grocery getter that will kick a$$ on the street if she has to. actually i only need a stock 302. but when guys see a chick in a stang. they always want to race and i have to, cause my foot twitches on the pedal like i'm coming off the line and i lose it and here we go!!!! i'm sure you know what i mean.

11-21-2001, 10:42 AM	#18
PKRWUD Junior Member Join Date: Mar 1999 Location: Ventura, California Posts: 8,981	dani- You know your way around a Sprint car, which puts you miles above the rest, IMHO. Save your funds and bail. Do you have any family members who could spot you the money to get out sooner? In the mean time, keep trying to talk your Sprint car owner into letting you drive next season! Our Main Events pay $1000 to win, and the SCRA boys get $2500 to win. If you're a natural, you could pick up some healthy rent money on the weekends! Best to you. Take care, -Chris __________________ Webmaster: Rice Haters Club Jim Porter Racing Peckerwoods Pit Stop Support Your Local RED & WHITE!