Stupid Feminists Strike Again

Mr 5 0 · 12-18-2001, 04:26 PM

Just to keep the conversation going I'll venture another comment, this time regarding the subject of beauty being 'in the eye of the beholder'.

Everyone, both male and female, have our preferences in what we consider attractive in the opposite sex. That's normal and natural and once you mature a bit you usually get past the absurd notion that your partner has to look like some movie star. Well, most of us get past that stage. Some don't and that's sad.

I find that too often the really ordinary looking guy will have these fantasies about getting some Pam Anderson lookalike as a girlfriend. This guy is usually working for minimum wage and drives his parents old rusted-out '89 Geo. This guy is why they publish Playboy and Hustler.
Usually, around 25 or so, reality sets in and they get more realistic in their expectations. Usually.
Still, I don't feel that anyone can deny the necessity that your potential boyfriend or girlfriend appear attractive to you, even if you're the only person around who has that opinion.

Sadly, too often I've seen guys (and I know that girls do this too) get talked out of (humiliated, really) dating or even hanging around some perfectly nice girl that didn't meet some ill-defined criteria that 'friends' had decided on.

Sometimes this is just a social status thing ('she lives on the wrong side of town' nonsense) but often, it's because the girl is a bit too studious ('nerd') or too athletic ('butch') or not very social ('loser') or simply not especially attractive by the standards of whatever group the guy belongs too. Very sad.
Fortunately this kind of clique-driven prejudice fades once you get past High School.

Once you've grown past these other-directed attitudes, you can get real about who you date and lose the 'movie star' criteria for potential dates.

I know in many instances, we'll meet someone who seems rather ordinary in the physical sense but after getting to know them awhile, we find that person rather interesting. They may be funny, witty, warm, sweet, smart, whatever - but they appeal to us through their personality and guess what? They start looking a lot better! I've had it happen to me.

You then begin noticing their physical attributes that you seemed to have 'missed' earlier.
This is why both sexes need to give other people a chance before condemning them as 'not my type'. Most of my friends ended up marrying girls that were 'not their type'. Ironic but true.

Beauty is something that we should decide, once we start to ignore the media-fed images that pretend to tell us what's sexy and attractive.

I've come to the conclusion that about 90+% of both men and women fall into the 'ordinary' category of physical attractiveness - not really beautiful/hunky but certainly not ugly, either.
Then we have the 8 or 9% that are well above average in physical appearance. Unfortunately, they usually know it and often are unbearable to be around. A few are not.

I've met one or two like that. Really beautiful women who were sweet and pleasent and confided that most guys were afraid to approach them because of their looks and they didn't date much. I was amazed, but it was true.
They ended up with very average guys, too.

I encourage folks to be open to new people and experiences and don't pre-judge members of the opposite sex. You may find a real gem that you could have otherwise overlooked.

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12-18-2001, 04:26 PM	#21
Mr 5 0 Conservative Individualist Join Date: May 1997 Location: Wherever I need to be Posts: 7,487	Just to keep the conversation going I'll venture another comment, this time regarding the subject of beauty being 'in the eye of the beholder'. Everyone, both male and female, have our preferences in what we consider attractive in the opposite sex. That's normal and natural and once you mature a bit you usually get past the absurd notion that your partner has to look like some movie star. Well, most of us get past that stage. Some don't and that's sad. I find that too often the really ordinary looking guy will have these fantasies about getting some Pam Anderson lookalike as a girlfriend. This guy is usually working for minimum wage and drives his parents old rusted-out '89 Geo. This guy is why they publish Playboy and Hustler. Usually, around 25 or so, reality sets in and they get more realistic in their expectations. Usually. Still, I don't feel that anyone can deny the necessity that your potential boyfriend or girlfriend appear attractive to you, even if you're the only person around who has that opinion. Sadly, too often I've seen guys (and I know that girls do this too) get talked out of (humiliated, really) dating or even hanging around some perfectly nice girl that didn't meet some ill-defined criteria that 'friends' had decided on. Sometimes this is just a social status thing ('she lives on the wrong side of town' nonsense) but often, it's because the girl is a bit too studious ('nerd') or too athletic ('butch') or not very social ('loser') or simply not especially attractive by the standards of whatever group the guy belongs too. Very sad. Fortunately this kind of clique-driven prejudice fades once you get past High School. Once you've grown past these other-directed attitudes, you can get real about who you date and lose the 'movie star' criteria for potential dates. I know in many instances, we'll meet someone who seems rather ordinary in the physical sense but after getting to know them awhile, we find that person rather interesting. They may be funny, witty, warm, sweet, smart, whatever - but they appeal to us through their personality and guess what? They start looking a lot better! I've had it happen to me. You then begin noticing their physical attributes that you seemed to have 'missed' earlier. This is why both sexes need to give other people a chance before condemning them as 'not my type'. Most of my friends ended up marrying girls that were 'not their type'. Ironic but true. Beauty is something that we should decide, once we start to ignore the media-fed images that pretend to tell us what's sexy and attractive. I've come to the conclusion that about 90+% of both men and women fall into the 'ordinary' category of physical attractiveness - not really beautiful/hunky but certainly not ugly, either. Then we have the 8 or 9% that are well above average in physical appearance. Unfortunately, they usually know it and often are unbearable to be around. A few are not. I've met one or two like that. Really beautiful women who were sweet and pleasent and confided that most guys were afraid to approach them because of their looks and they didn't date much. I was amazed, but it was true. They ended up with very average guys, too. I encourage folks to be open to new people and experiences and don't pre-judge members of the opposite sex. You may find a real gem that you could have otherwise overlooked.