Why do most Guys Cheat?
 

I just dumped my 4th cheating boyfriend. Why do guys cheat? Why ask a girl out if she isn't enough that you have to cheat on her?

Ahhh. Be prepared. The floodgates are about to open with nothing but young bucks that will promise you the world for as much as a smile. They will reassure you of a lifetime of fidelity, if you'll only give them a chance.

I'll reply to this thread after a couple of pages have been filled. I'm curious to read what the masses have to share.

:)

Take care,
~Chris

Well,
I'm guessing you're in your teens.
To be perfectly honest, most guys (and most girls for that matter), don't take relationships very seriously at that age.

In many ways, this is actually a good thing....

When you're young, you're just starting out and figuring out how to deal with "the opposite sex". Young folks take the experiences they learn and build on them....

and to be honest, just because you're going out with someone, doesn't mean either of you are "tied down".

You'll both have plenty of time for that when marriage comes around someday....

HAHA. I wish I could go back to when I was 16, 17, 18. This would have described me to a"T". I used to say anything to get a chance at a girl. But then I grew up. Oh, those were the days...hehe

Guys can be scum...then some can be sweethearts

IMMATURE GUYS
 

Hrm....I'm not a guy but I'd like to explain my theory... here goes:
When a guy is in his teens, he is all about fitting in with his buddies. He wants to outdo whatever anyone else does. His ego is looking for a boost. So, in this case, he might want to be able to say to his friends, "Hey, guess what. I messed around with "Jane" earlier today and then I was hooking up with "Lucy" later on at a party!!" It's like he wants to see how many chicks he can get with. He knows that his g/f will be there if he needs some play so it's kinda like a security blanket. But he may find some hot chick at a party and "forget" (purposely) that he has a g/f and mess around with that chick. This coould turn into a chain reaction...he breaks up with his g/f, dates the chick from the party...cheats on her with another chick...and so on...
Now I don't know if this makes sense to you or not but this is my thoughts on cheating. Guys, am I right, or what!? :confused:

I am so sick of getting hurt by guys and then he rubs it in my face by putting that girls name on his profile and telling her that he wants to make out with her and show her what real love is about!

As a young man I only thought with my other head. Overloaded on hormones I was dangerous.

Men in general always spring for the shinnyest thing that appears in front of them. Its not like were thinking or planning anything, at any givin time.

Look for a developing young lad that shows self respect. If he can't respect himself hes unlikely to respect you.

12 years married and counting.

Hmmmm
 

Well I am 24 and I have to say it is not just teenagers it is collage aged boys too!! I know and right now I don't trust men at all!! For the same reason cheatin and lyin!! I know you are probably thinking "O well that is because the type of men you are picking" I am really picky really and I don't like real cocky guys, I pick the perfact angels the type to take home to mom and dad!!! And still they are pigs too.... Well maybe that is my problem I need a bad boy!!!! Anyone up to the challenge???;)

guys cheat cuz they are dumbasses....in high school, the majority of guys dont have a decent bone in their body...i dont know about college yet, but id assume its the same way...you just gotta keep your eyes open and look for those few "special" guys that wont cheat (like me)...ive been told im one of those types anyways...but even though (most) girls say they want that perfect guy that wont cheat, etc etc, they are always attracted to the kind that will cheat...so its a circle until you break it...ive been with my gf for over 13months and still loving the relationship...so who knows...everyones different...keep going out with guys, keep getting cheated on....at least youre ruling out the bad ones (ever so slowly) :) ...and Hammer is completely right, just because you go out doesnt mean you're tied down when youre a teenager (i guess i really dont know how old you are, but i hope we're assuming correctly when we say youre a teenager, like myself)...its a crappy system, meeting people, and usually (like i said) is a process of elimination or stimulation...hehe :D sorry he cheated on you though...thats still wrong...he should at least break up with you first :mad:

Re: Why do most Guys Cheat?
 

"because boys are doody heads an girls are icky," of course..:D

its not jus you, i'm picky about the girls I open up too (one too many times across the coals will do that to ya). i'm the king of never knowin what I want..

seriously, there are good guys out there..were jus not where you'd think we'd be. :)

Not all guys cheat. I never cheated on any of my girlfriends, though I have had a g/f cheat on me. It works both ways, can you explain why girls cheat?

i think that the guys are trying to prove that girls find them irresistible. i dunno i never cheated on any of the girls i went out with, i never wanted too. i had a girl cheat on me back in high school and it made me feel crappy so i never wanted to do that a girl i went out with. actually i'm still friends with nearly all of them. i'm just out of a long relationship because i have to move a fair distance away and she didn't want a long distance relationship and i can't really blame her its a hard thing (we had a long distance relationship for the first year). but in the whole 4 years that we went out i never wanted to cheat or needed too. not all guys are bad, but some are pricks.

-murray

Thx guys, I need to get out more, maybe go to the track, or the arcade, some place guys go, only problem is that my past bfs were rice boys and they were always dissing my car and I don't like that i want a guy thats into muscle cars!

I have no idea why guys cheat to be honest. it might be the whole ego thing but that never crossed my mind while i was in high school (just graduated last year). Ive heard about it happening to a few of my friends and it just sounds so stupid to me. I mean if you like a girl so much that you go uot with her why the hell are you going to cheat? :confused:

Its too bad you live on the wrong side of the coast ;) J/K

Later,
Nick

I've never cheated, and I want to ask, Why do most GIRLS cheat??? I actually know about as many girls as guys that cheat! So I guess the question really is... Why does ANYONE cheat???

First off, I'm sorry to hear that happened to you Jessica! I hope things get better for you! I have a couple opinions on this subject.

Guys cheat because:
-Their bored in the current relationship
-They don't know how to break it off with their current girlfriend, afraid of hurting her.
-They've been in the relationship for a long period of time and feel they can't leave.
-They want to be with the current GF, but want to experience some different bootie for a period of time, then return home.
-Guys are just dogs and want to do anything that moves.

This is just stuff That I have observed from friends and talking with people at bars.

-Craig

Re: Hmmmm
 

BAD BOYS-FOR LIFE!!! It's the only way to go! :p

I cheated on a b/f my freshman year of high school and he described it to a friend this way: "it felt as if she ripped my heart out of my chest, threw it on the ground, stomped on it and left it for the dead." That was almost 4 years ago and I still remember that quote like it was yesterday, it had such an effect on me. Once I got cheated on and realized how much it hurts..it really sucks. Both of these instances together made me vow to myself that I will NEVER cheat on anyone, ever again!!

Well I can't say that much. I used to do it alot. My ex-fiance was the only person I never cheated on. Guess it does have a lot to do with maturity. I grew up alot during her and I's relationship. I'm 22 now and refuse to cheat on anyone I'm seeing. Now if a woman wants to cheat on her man well, I'm a young guy I can't be a saint. :D

:D HAHAHAHA! man your funny as hell!

Jessica, Why do most woman cheat? Its 50/50. you women do it as much as guys.

Remember another thing, guys are horny 24-7-356. Even at 60 we still get horny. just adding my .02 cents.

Sorry to hear about your boyfriend cheating on you. Its wrong, but it happens all the time. maybe you should start picking guys with Stangs that are smart and maybe you wouldnt have that problem;) ;)

Commitment. Isn't that what they call it when they lock you up in an insane asylum?

Let's see if I can put all this into a slightly different perspective.

Do you remember what it was like when you wanted to drive, but didn't have a car? That's all you thought about. Not only did you want to drive, but you wanted a cool car. One that looked really sharp, and that everyone else would drool over. Your friends had cars, so why shouldn't you? Some guys wanted to drive so badly they would get any car they could, but you wanted something special. You worked hard, and saved your money, and finally got yourself a beauty. It was a little odd at first, but the more time you spent with it, the closer you felt. You thought about it all the time, and you bragged about it to your friends. You spent all your free time pampering it, and buying things for it. You would spend an entire Saturday washing and waxing it, just because you loved it. There was nothing you wouldn't do for it, and you couldn't imagine what life would be like if something happened to it. Then one day you were out and about, and saw a car for sale at a car lot that was way out of your price range, but it was still fun to look at. You were just admiring it's curves, and appreciating it's potential. You easily imagined yourself driving it. You still loved your car, but the other one started taking up space in your mind. Then one day, without planning it, you found yourself at the car lot, and the salesman asked you if you'd like to take it for a test drive. You suddenly found yourself nervous and unsure, but thrilled at the chance to experience something new. Next thing you knew, you were flying down the highway in this dream car. An hour or two later, you got back to the car lot, feeling very satisfied. You knew you would never own that car, but at least now you knew what it felt like to drive it. You still loved your car, but now you were better aware of it's shortcomings, and the things about it that could be improved. This left you with an option; you either stuck it out with your car, and accepted it just the way it was, or you realized that there were better cars out there, and decided it was time to move on, never even realizing that the cars feelings might be hurt. I mean, you knew it was a good car, and someone else would buy it and love it, so that made everything okay, right? ;)


By the way, women buy more new cars than men do.

:)

Take care,
~Chris

why do most women munipulate and play head games with guys to get what they want .....why do most women try to change every guy they get into a relationship with .........why do most women try to control every guy they get into a relationship with ........

you saying most guy's cheat is probly as disturbing as me saying most women are munipulative contol freaks ,.........me saying that pretty much puts all women in the same catagory as the one's i've had experience with .......

i like to believe all women are not like that .......... so try to believe that not all guy's are like that........some of us do have honest intentions

Dude, you missed the last meeting. We decided to give up the whole "honest intentions" thing. Wasn't worth the effort.

;)

Take care,
~Chris

Well Jessica I can easily explain your hole problem to you. You said all you have been dating is riceboys. That should give you a clue right there. Now if you where dating a Mustang Man you would be so much better off. :D


On anther note when i was a teenager and in high school i wont even lie I took what got put in front of me no matter if I had a girlfreind or not. Did the same stuff when i was in College even if the g/f was at the same party as me. But now i would never think of it. I will be 26 here in a coulple of weeks and the last thing in this world i would ever do is cheat. Sometimes it just takes time for guys to mature. But like I said If you find yourself i real. MUSTANG MAN you wont have any problems.

Anyone else catch that Freudian slip?

:)

Take care,
~Chris

Quote:

Anyone else catch that Freudian slip?

QUOTE :
Well Jessica I can easily explain your hole problem to you.


RMAO!!!! I was curious as to whether it was intentional or just a typo. But pretty much sums up the problem and why guys can not be faithful! :p

whats all this car talk?:confused: i thought this was about cheating on people?! i think you totally missed the point chris...(bwuaha ;))


so where exactly is it that they line up these...ahem..."cars" and have a salesman who lets you test drive them??...must be a cali thing....:D

rofl, I saw that too....i broke out laughing..:p:p..and ure right mustangkelly...but its the same hole problem that gets a lot of cars to cheat on their owners...(uhh...blame chris...lol)

LMAO. I was waiting to see if anyone would catch that. :p I quess it didn't take very long. YOu guys and gals are very observant.

Thx Guys I emailed him and told him that i hope him and michelle work out and that he wasnt my type anyway because not only was he shallow, he was a riceboy.

right on:D , bloody ricers eh.

Sweet! So...ummm...when you coming to MS? I don't have another stang at the moment but I don't have a ricer either.:D :D :D

Re: Why do most Guys Cheat?
 

DO NOT GET ME STARTED ON THIS SUBJECT :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Re: Why do most Guys Cheat?
 

Well, Jessica, it's a 'couples' world but at 17, this behavior, (cheating boyfriends) while upsetting, is rather routine - for both sexes. You have people a few years past puberty and hormone-rich, which translates into lust and intense attraction to the opposite sex.

Then you factor in the immaturity quotient. You're talking about people who have adult bodies but little experience in life outside of their own school, home and circle of friends. This makes for instant attraction with no depth - beyond the attraction. Not a good start. Many teens get their idea of love and romance from movies and TV and reality is quite different. There are no second takes.

Most folks don't know what they want in the opposite sex - at 17. Physical attraction is the main motivator, usually aided by proximity (same school, neighborhood, whatever) and maybe some shared interests. Attention spans are short and both sexes are fickle. Boredom sets in quickly and male peer pressure to demonstrate their sexuality by 'getting' a lot of girls is another factor, in many cases. Unfortunately, many girls are now following the same pattern of serial 'conquests' that generally leave them feeling rather empty - and alone.

'Love you forever' one day, "We need to see other people' the next. Frustrating, isn't it? That's why these instant hooking-up situations don't work well. At 17 (or 18 or 19) one would do well to avoid the 'boyfriend-girlfriend concept and just play the field. While having the steady is convenient, it usually doesn't work out and lots of hurt feelings ensue. Too much, too soon, but each generation has to find that out for themselves.

Anyway, the short answer to your question is: The guys aren't ready for any kind of real committment. Too immature, too much testosterone, too many distractions.

Ditto

17 years of marriage, i have never cheated, dont mean i dont look though. :D , but i will never cross that boundry.:)

Yep, I'm 17 (nearly 18:cool: ). And yep, I've cheated on my girlfriend, more than once. I am still with my girlfriend, and she is now aware of everything (we broke up after that), although she wasn't at the time. We've been together for 4 years now. During my sophomore year was when I first cheated on her. And during the year after that I cheated on her a few times. I am now going into my senior year. But we were apart for about 2 months a while back, and that changed everything. I have had numerous chances to cheat on her since then, but I haven't once. I will never cheat on anyone again in my life. I guess I finally got past that 'get all you can get' stage or something.:rolleyes:

I didn't do it to 'fit in' or 'be cool'. After almost every time it would be between me and the girl, no one else. The only reason I did it was because I was bored and not fully interested in my relationship--plus the fact that we teenagers (male) are drowning in frickin hormones.;)

Definition?
 

Could we have a definition of "cheating"? Is it just going out with some other person after we're supposed to be "committed"? Or does it include sexual intercourse of some type?

Rev

Re: Definition?
 

Hell, how 'bout some pictures, too!

:p

Take care,
~Chris

Re: Definition?
 

Bingo. In my personal opinion, anyways....:rolleyes:

Smooching?
 

So if one just does a little smooching and rubbing up against another person, then that is not actually cheating? Or are there just different degrees of cheating?

Rev

There are a couple of easy explanations that have been missed so far.

1. Guys cheat beause they can. It's really a conquest thing, just like racing.

2. Girls are much easier to talk to, and seem to like us more if we are taken. For some reason, females seem to let their guard down when there is a girlfriend involved, and then number one comes back into play.

Personally, I don't cheat. It's friggen hard enough to get ONE chick to spend time with me, much less play another one on the side. I'm sorry that happens to you, but dating in your teens is as much about learning who you are as it is falling in love.

Take it easy,
Mike

PS. Shelby428cj - You wanna piece of me?;)

Well I never had time to read the whole thread but I will get to it. I can only say, not all guys are like this. I had a g/f which I believed she was on her way of cheating, I will find the link to the thread I created and one was involving cheating and one involving the situation I was in. I know it's one of the worst feelings, but for every guy that cheats there is a girl that cheats. It's done by both sexes. Why they do it, I will never figure out. I'd rather be told the relationship is over then find out the hard way. Love sucks but it's the best system we got to fill our empty hearts and our hormones (guys know what I mean). :D But don't worry, life will go on, you will learn to love again. I know I'm finding a whole new world I forgot and missed. I still miss my ex (since we've only been broken up for 3 weeks) but every girl I talk to and seem to find something in them I like that my ex didn't have any makes me wonder what it will feel like when I find the girl that holds all the features I look all in one. Guess this is love and it's journey and as it's a long path, I got a '69 Mach 1 with a 351 to make it fast cause every chick loves the car. :D

§am.

LOL is that an offer;) ???

..........and you know this.;)

Why do most guys cheat?

Well.....i don't think most guys cheat, i think the guys you're attracted to cheat. The qualities you may find attractive in a guy may unfortunately be tied with guys who have different ideals, beliefs, and values than you do.
If you try and go out with guys you may be attracted to in a different way, they may be different than the guys you're been with.
Maybe there is something they all had in common that you may have been attracted to that is a warning sign about them.....you never know.
Then again you may just be unlucky. I know i'm attracted to lots of different women, but i can usually pick out which ones MAY be more prone to cheating.
I may just be talking out of my @ss, but this is what i think ;)

There was a study they were talking about on the radio a couple weeks ago that said, among other things, that 84% of all people will have cheated on a significant other at least one time in their life.

Deal with it.

Take care,
~Chris

:eek:
PKRWUD you are a cheater aren't you??!!?? WOW 84 percent that is just sad... If I don't like someone or I think I might like someone better I say HIT THE ROAD! I mean how hard is it to break up with someone and then go for some else sheeessshhh;)

As a matter of fact, no, I'm not. I have once before, but that was when I was in my 20's. I have found that life is so much simpler without the shackles of a commitment. If I'm not committed, I'm not cheating.

:)

Take care,
~Chris