Is it wrong not to take your gf/bf to a party?

[Red514LX]

Mustangbelle306,

I understand where you are coming from and I agree with the points you've made. I could give examples that support my point (i.e., dating service advertisements, movies like "The Family Man", etc.). In the end, I guess it's all in how you see it. I know a few of my guy friends are NOT happy being single and they do want a steady gf so that tells me something also. Like I said, though, your point is well taken and correct as are mine.

I think age, more often than not (so greater than 50%), is without a doubt a good idicator of maturity. This applies to men and women alike. I don't have any scientific studies to back my claim up but that's what I believe. However, as with many things in life, it's bad to lump everyone into a category based only on age. As you said, take it on a case by case basis and that's definitely the right way to go.

Just my person opinions here but I don't believe women really mature completely until a few years after college, where they have a job, and are living on their own, etc.

For men, well, it seems that men don't mature up until their late 20s. Even after college, when they have a career, apt. etc. there seems to be a period of 6 years or so where they still want to be players.

Of course, these are very broad statements and certainly do not apply to all people. However, I bet it applies to a bunch.

[Mustangbelle306]

Yeah, I think you're more right than I am. I guess the reason I grew up more quickly was because I moved out right after high school, and haven't lived at home since...and had a full time job for a full year before going back to college. I think your take probably applies to waaaaay more than mine does.

I guess I just brought it up because I found myself generalizing guys for a while (not that they are all creeps) but by age, level of education, etc etc and I probably wrongly judged quite a few.

hehe I think the typical college maturity level should be classified somewhere between infancy and preschool

[Topless In Texas]

On the other hand....I"m 36. Recently single - after 15 years.

Sometimes its better to be single and happy then to stay in an unhappy relationship. I was 21 when I moved in with and then married the 'love of my life' at 22. Life is unpredictable, and NOTHING is certain, or forever....and single or married can't be stereotyped by what is seen on TV...that's not real life. And its not always the men that are unhappy in their relationships.

I agree w/ Red514LX completetely!!!
You have a LOT of wisdom for your age!! You're lucky to have the great relationship you have, but yet you can see the good points of being 'single' too! To me, that shows a lot of maturity - to be able to see the positive of both situations!
Neither is right - or wrong - all that matters is that one is TRULY HAPPY with where they are in their life, and I can say that the last year for me has been one of my happiest in a LONG time!!

Its a HUGE decision to make. But, in the long run you have to look out for yourself and do what makes you happy. There is nothing harder than being in an unhappy relationship.

Stang Crazy: You do what you feel like YOU need to do to make YOU feel good about yourself and your situation again...and only YOU can decide that. All we can do is give you input based on our own expieriences.....and everyones expieriences are TOTALLY different because of our ages, and our expieriences in life! Hopefully you can take bits and pieces of eveyone's post's and apply them to your situation, to help you realize where you want to be!!!

Good luck to ya! Topless

BTW: everyone here has great input...lets you see how many different types of situations there are and how others deal w/ them. This is a good thread.

[C Pony Go]

When I married my current wife I not only gave her use of my last name BUT also included her in my first name which many people tend to over look..such as Andy AND Dawn ,not Andy OR Dawn..

My wife is disabled now with severe Diabeties causing severe artery deterioration...reading the first of these posts at first worked me up in the sense that irregaurdless of marriage,you are a couple and each of you should WANT to shower eachother with respect and adroration...

When I go places,I want my wife to go since we are a team,she IS my best friend and I expect people to say to others of my /our presence at a function wheather or not Andy AND Dawn will be there not just Andy or not just Dawn..I am 44 and raised her two boys and I am their DAD..I just tears me up when kids look at dates as just some one to jump in the sack rather than seeing their partners for more and trying to enhance a relationship...yeah I know sometimes things don't work out but once you are married,you give 100% attention and devoetion and again-I know sometimes things fall short...

I would love to have a more physical relationship but because of her health it is not possible...BUT let me tell you all first hand that if try and give it Gods honest best you will be rewarded...I can't tell in words the feelings I have for her because its so different than what we are rasied beleiving. We have this bond,and the feelings are so awesome,even without sex involved, that we are enjoying life to the fullest...she won't live long and I can't say that I will be out looking for another sole mate cause I am putting so much into US that....I don't know! Like I said ,our relationship is so great we don't need anything else-we have eachother. My wife is still very attractive too me and others ..she looks nowhere her age and is often guessed as younger by up 10 years...we work hard for each other and thats the main lesson people should have from the start. If you want to be together,then you each need to find a pedestal to put eachother on....

just my 2 cents again..

[Topless In Texas]

That was AWESOME!!! That's What Life is ALL ABOUT!!!

We all have our soulmate out there. Some of us KNOW who they are, some are still looking.

I"m so happy for all of you who have found your's and for those are that have not found them yet...
they are out there. Just give it time. (Easier said than done at times!!!)

That post was incredible, Andy. Thanks for sharing it.

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