When I married my current wife I not only gave her use of my last name BUT also included her in my first name which many people tend to over look..such as Andy AND Dawn ,not Andy OR Dawn..
My wife is disabled now with severe Diabeties causing severe artery deterioration...reading the first of these posts at first worked me up in the sense that irregaurdless of marriage,you are a couple and each of you should WANT to shower eachother with respect and adroration...
When I go places,I want my wife to go since we are a team,she IS my best friend and I expect people to say to others of my /our presence at a function wheather or not Andy AND Dawn will be there not just Andy or not just Dawn..I am 44 and raised her two boys and I am their DAD..I just tears me up when kids look at dates as just some one to jump in the sack rather than seeing their partners for more and trying to enhance a relationship...yeah I know sometimes things don't work out but once you are married,you give 100% attention and devoetion and again-I know sometimes things fall short...
I would love to have a more physical relationship but because of her health it is not possible...BUT let me tell you all first hand that if try and give it Gods honest best you will be rewarded...I can't tell in words the feelings I have for her because its so different than what we are rasied beleiving. We have this bond,and the feelings are so awesome,even without sex involved, that we are enjoying life to the fullest...she won't live long and I can't say that I will be out looking for another sole mate cause I am putting so much into US that....I don't know! Like I said ,our relationship is so great we don't need anything else-we have eachother. My wife is still very attractive too me and others ..she looks nowhere her age and is often guessed as younger by up 10 years...we work hard for each other and thats the main lesson people should have from the start. If you want to be together,then you each need to find a pedestal to put eachother on....
just my 2 cents again..
