I have come to a very simple conclusion on this matter after being told I'm "too nice" what seems like several hundred times.
Being "too nice" indicates you are weak. A basic instinct is to get the best male out there. If you're all clingy and super nice, it would seem as though you are too eager. Why are you too eager? Simple, cause that girl is the best you can do. Therefore, the girl can do better, right?
She wants a guy to be strong and think of himself as worthy, etc. None of this lame "I'm not good enough ****" At least not truely meaning that. Still, you have to make sure you don't come across as too arrogant.
Basically, you want her to think that you are worth her effort too. Being too nice makes it seem like she could do better cause she doesn't have to try, and you're working your *** off. Either that or it's a lame *** excuse trying to avoid hurting your feelings cause she's not interested anyway.
Girls are much like guys by the way. Girls that act desperate for a guy usually don't get them. The chase is a big deal I think, it has to go both ways for their to be any interest. So many girls cling to guys who are assholes because they feel that the guy is as good as they can possibly do. Just like guys cling to a girl that disrespects the guy and all he feels because he thinks the girl is the best girl in the world.
That's all fine and good after the chase, but during? Appearently not.
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