Breaking up is hard to do
Sam:
Well, this sucks and you have my sympathy.
I had a strong suspicion that this was a relationship heading for the cliff but didn't know that and didn't want to be totally negative about your problems or the future of the relationship.
Frankly, this stuff happens. Guys seem to get way too involved with some girls when the girls just want to play around. Seems like the tables have turned these days.
In any case, you'll need to break it off clean, as you planned. No 'friend' crap. That usually translates to :"If my new guy bombs I can always use you again".
Do other stuff and time will heal you. Don't hate 'women'. 'Women' didn't mess with you, this one girl did. They aren't all like that. Just don't go so whole-hog over a girl so soon. Hold back a little and get to totally know who she is, and let her get to know you. The 24/7 stuff gets old fast and a lot of girls feel suffocated by it.
I love my wife but I don't spend every minute with her (and I could). We have separate interests - and friends - but we are there for each other every day...just not every minute of every day.
Your girlfriend is playing it coy because she doesn't want a big confrontation or to have to tell you the truth, which she knows will hurt you (another guy is more interesting). Girls always want to avoid scenes and looking bad by dumping the guy for another. It's normal. Guys are not above doing something similar. Get used to it.
Again, sorry about the impending breakup.
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