[daveGT]

Mercury,

I'm with you on this one 110%, pal! Amen to that!

My wife is not one to go out to bars and dance halls, but on occasion, she wants to dance at weddings, etc. Now I hate the "sweat dancing," or just floppin' around to the lastest dance-mix-80's-hits. That's not dancing. I refuse to do that. Why do you need a girl to do that? So my answer to her is the same. I tell her that if she wants to dance, I'll go with her to dance lessons. Two-step, waltz, swing, whatever.

This worked a while back, for we took two-step, foxtrot, waltz, cha-cha and rumba. Let me tell you, rythm comes with practice, and it was very fun. However, good luck finding a place to cha-cha! Try that at the local college hang-out and you might get beat up! lol!

We've dropped lessons many years ago, but it was fun for her (and me!), and demanding lessons seemed to stop her from bugging me to dance. That's meeting her half way.

I know this doesn't help for the single scene.

Try this, instead. In my experience, "real" women are impressed with men who can cook, not dance. Follow up your "no me dance," with: "but I can prepare a killer wilted caesar salad, feta cheese and crab stuffed pork loin, and garlic-buttered broiled asperagus tips." Now that'll impress the ladies!!

If you can't really deliver on this boast, LIE, and figure out a way to deliver. She'll forgive you later!

Good luck!