[Mr 5 0]

Mercury:

Don't feel bad, I don't dance either and while it hampered me a little bit when I was single, it wasn't a huge deal. I made it clear to whomever I was dating that I didn't do the the club scene and if a wedding reception (or something requiring dancing) was in the offing, I would be glad to go but they would have to find another dance partner. Had a few uncomfortable scenes where a girl tried to 'force' me onto the floor to 'dance' but only once or twice - and I was always able to get out of it gracefully, using humor. My wife dances quite well and when we were dating she was disappointed that I didn't dance (or want to) but she finally gave up on me after a few years and now she dances with girlfriends or some trusted male friend when a 'dance situation' occurs (usually at a friend's wedding). This works for us and my total lack of dancing ability is now sort of a family joke, which is fine with me as it keeps me from being expected to dance.

Shallow people, especially single young women, are everywhere. Finding an honest, down-to-earth girl who respects a guy for what he is and not how he looks or how much he has in the bank is a full-time job but if you're willing to forego the Brittany Spears wannabe's and look more for substance and soul than boob size and how short her skirt is, they are out there, looking for a guy who will respect them and love them for who they are, not for the superficial stuff too many guys and gals make a priority. That doesn't mean you have to look for nerds or homely girls, just look beyond the superficial and the sexual (at first) and try to find a woman who has some substance and isn't primarily focused on her physical image and your pay rate. These kinds of girls do exist - but few are ever found in bars and clubs, as you know. I found mine (gentle, feminine, intelligent, not a shred of vanity and totally in love with me) and once I did I never looked back. I wish the same happens to you.