i am sorry that you are going through hell. Love is the hardest thing to do in this world. i still love my husband very much, but it is over and I will move on. We live in NC, so we have to wait a year to get a divorce. i still can't believe I will be separated longer than I was married. I think rsampson is right, he does not care about me or the marriage. He thinks he is justified in ending the marriage. He has to live with the fact that he let this marriage go and did not want to try. I have been trying. He tells me his plans and that we are done. I am beginning to believe that he is not the man I married. His mother suffers from depression and has her moments. His father understands and honors their marriage. I don't understand why he can't be understanding like that. If I think about it, he just wants out. He has decided that marriage is not for him. I said something about him buying a new motercycle and he tells everyone that I am trying to control the money. I just felt that after we just got married, bought a new mach, and spending way too much on christmas gifts that a motorcycle could wait. Then, he also tells me I don't buy him beer. To listen to him I must be the worst person on this earth. I never cheated on him, nor did I ever give him reason to think so. I just got depress about my grandmother having a stroke over the holidays, plus got mad at him for calling some girl from the internet and said some things that I shouldn't have, plus got sick with the flu and not put him first. He could not understand. He sees this as an opportunity to get out. He tells me he is not happy, then I don't understand why he doesn't fix it. I give up trying to understand. I am trying to buy the vehicle I was driving from him b/c I need something to drive. I guess our marriage is down to business and that is it. I am making myself move on and get over this. His mother even told me that it was over and that he has made his mind up and I might as well forget it, plus she said there is no reason to cry over spilled milk and move on. She knows her son, and from her point of view it is over. i get it now. To ask you one thing, does you wife honestly need to depend on you for things, or is she just being evil to get things, or maybe she doesn't want to leave. Maybe you and her, if neither one of you are with someone, could go out on a date and see what may happen. Ask her to play truths for one night. Do not talk about what you two are going through, just start over. Who knows you and her may rekindle something or at least may give you a chance to get closure and have a better divorce. I believe in second chances and think things can work out. I wish you luck. My husband reads this site. Does anyone have any advise for him?
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