Hey Sky,
I thought there might be a post up about this, and I figured I'd chime in. You know, in that Unit 5302 brutally honest sort of way.
I've seen a lot of good advice, and interpretations of what might be going on and how people might be feeling. I've seen the helpful advice to worship the ground that she walks on, constantly praise her, and to understand that living together is somehow a clear indication of the intent to get married in the near future.
Here's the cold hard truth.
- She's was acting in a decitful manner, being unfaithful to your relationship for at least the second time.
- Neither did she give you warning nor did she try to communicate with you about how she was feeling.
- You were largely supporting her, and she was not acting responsibly.
- People posting that moving in with somebody or rather, allowing them to move in with you, is a clear indication of the intent to marry in the near future must be living in some dark wooded area that I've never been to.
- Why would you want to marry somebody who was fiscally completely irresponsible anyway?
- No guy that has the intent to steal your girlfriend is going to outright say that and give you a chance to put up a greater defense.
- The number one reason people break up is a 3rd party. I don't really think it's anybody's fault until one party in the current relationship acts in a decitful manner. She allowed it to happen.
- Her family and friends apparently want her to get back together with you, which says volumes.
My personal opinion is to find somebody new. You've been with her for over 4 years now, and she still hasn't figured out how well she has it, and quite frankly, I don't expect she ever will if you take her back.
All I can really do is just wish you the best of luck, and let you know that I'm around if you need me, bud.