I can relate, because my Dad was anal retentive also. Dont lose sleep over it. He's your dad, and he loves you, even if he has anger/temper problems. Just be aware of his problem, and keep your distance. I think these people just need their "space", and dont mean to hurt you. Call him on the phone just to say hello. If hes in a pissy mood, youll know, and you can cut the call short. If he wants to talk, then you can talk to him, and probably you will feel better.
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1993 GT/AOD
'93 Mustang GT