Folks who don't want kids should not have them, simple as that.
I think it must be the saddest thing in the world to be a kid and know (or guess) that you are unwanted and an 'inconvenience' to your parents. To create and/or bear a child and then feel it's a big burden that infringes on your time and resources is cruel to the child and so, I totally agree with anyone of any age who says 'no kids'.
The caution here is that for those who are single and feel that way, be very, very careful who you go to bed with and take very reliable precautions or don't complain later when the pregnancy occurs. You asked for it.
For the married folks, same applies when it comes to taking precautions but I find that most people mature enough to make a marriage committment and stick with it, eventually decide - together - to have at least one child. I did and never regretted it.
Yeah, it's work and time and money, but the rewards are so great that all that pales when weighed in the balance.
By the way; I once felt exactly like you folks who think having a kid was the worst thing that could happen, but I changed my mind after some years of marriage and never looked back. However, it's not for everyone.
Oh, and I've never owned a minivan, either.
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