mustangdani55; Mercury:
I'll offer you this; Each of us has the ultimate control over what we do and who we give ourselves too. No one can force you to keep dating or living with someone when you are unfullfilled and generally unhappy.
Only you can do that.
I would suggest that in the near future you both sit down in a quiet place and honestly evaluate who you are and what you want in a life partner. Never mind the recriminations and "I wish" fantasies.
Do you consider yourself unworthy of the 'ideal' partner you really want? Why? Why do you end up in dead-end relationships? Don't waste time blaming the other people in your life but ask yourself why YOU accept situations that make you unhappy.
It's tough to face these questions of yourself - and frankly - difficult to do without some kind of professional help such as a counselor, but it's well worth it no matter how you get there.
Once you've honestly answered why you allow yourself to stay in bad or pointless relationships tou can examine why you feel that way and how to change. As I said, this usually requires professional help to get you past the hard parts that you may want to avoid.
Guys; this is your life. Don't waste the best part of it wishing, hoping, running around in circles and generally being unhappy and unfullfilled. That is beyond sad - and unnecessary.
No other person is going to 'make you happy'; only you can do that, but with the right (compatible) person by your side, life can be a lot easier to take and when you love someone and have that love returned within an honest and mutually respectful relationship, all the soul-searching and brutal honesty it takes to get there will be well worth it.
I know, I did it.
Give it some thought.
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