It's Not Working Anymore!!!

[Mustangmom2k]

It's always hard to respond to these kinds of questions without knowing the people involved, but here goes:

What's her hurry? On the one hand, if she can't wait, maybe you want to reconsider. Without knowing her reasons for being in a hurry, it's hard for me to advise you. On the other hand, you've been together this long, so why wait?

As stated above, if you're waiting for things to "get straight", forget it. Life always has yet another project, event, or upcoming goal to meet. In that sense, you'll never "get straight" or have the ideal timing. There is no such thing. Therefore, you should go for it now (if you're basing the wait on finishing anything.)

When I met my husband, we were in the Air Force. We knew each other 3 months, then got married. I remember thinking, "My God, what am I doing?! Am I out of my mind?" But I was happy and in love, and we both had orders to transfer to separate bases soon. Because of that, we were in a hurry. I jumped in with both feet and have never looked back. We just celebrated our 22 anniversary last Friday!

So, if there's a good reason to be in a hurry, then go for it now! If not, then waiting is not necessarily a bad idea, but waiting too long usually backfires. Also, waiting for the wrong reasons will backfire, too (finish school, get that promotion, etc.).

I don't know. Tough call here. Good luck!