After 4.5years she left me with no notice...

[RBatson]

Sky, this was to be a private message but I figure I may as well let it go...

Hey Sky, I can't say much on the board about this because I am currently seperated and don't want anything to be used against me in the divorce. What you are going though.. I have been though a few times already. If you want her back... act as if you don't need her. Go about your life and she will definitely be looking you up when times in her life are down. Would you want her back? No. Back for a night.. sure. Leave it at that. Actually better to say no and move on. I've had atleast 2 girls screw around at work, both came back. The thing is.. you will never be able to trust her again. You will always be wondering who is at work, new job.. who is there. Once trust is gone there is nothing there but misery, believe me.

I got married back in November. The girl showed no interest in the board until we split up and now I'm certain she has turned some members against me with 'her' story. Get this, 3 weeks into the marriage she said all she wanted was "the Avalache and alimony" when we split. It stopped me dead in my tracks. Every week she would say something like.. "we should split up now while we are still friends" or call me at work and say "I can't take it anymore!!". I was like "what can't you take?" "I just think I'm going to bore you" "You aren't going to bore me.. I can keep myself entertained, I'll keep you entertained as well".

Let me break it down for you.. Before marriage: she would get up at 4am and fix me breakfast, did my laundry, sexed me, made me happy, always defended me(to anyone)..

after marriage: "You're a big boy, I need to teach you to take care of yourself", "all I want is the Avalanche and alimony", "I want access to the money left over each month".. Well, seeing as she wasn't bringing any money in and I was paying over $1k in car payments and insurance then the rest of the bills like house payments, water, electric, cell phones, cable, internet, trash... you know the drill... There wasn't any f'n money left! All so she could lay in bed and watch "The View" at 11am and then her soaps at 1pm and then Dr. Phil at 3 or 4pm. In between she would take her dog to the vet to get his teeth cleaned or some BS like that. She had a loaded 02 Avalanche to drive around and I gave her $80 a month to gas it up and $300 a month for groceries. What more could she want?!?!

I found out she was talking shit about me to her mom and my mom as well.. that didn't go over too well.

The thing is.. her parents have been taking care of her for 32 years and she didn't want to work. She has 2 degrees and yet can't find a job.. hmm. She thought by marrying me she was entiled to half of what I owned, she was sadly mistaken. Now she is bitter. Unless you find someone and start with nothing, don't get married! I will never marry again.