Before I marry

[RBatson]

I don't visit this site that much, mostly because my wife.. now ex-wife monitored it for my post. Funny I should visit and see this thread. Let me tell you a little story and what I think. Marriage is not about love in this country. I always thought marriage was the ultimate surrender.. ' I love you and always will'. I waited 35 yrs to find that perfect someone, she was perfect.. I mean perfect. As far as looks, I'd sit her next to any woman I ever met and pick her every time. She doesn't realize her beauty for some reason, that's beside the fact. She said the perfect things, did the perfect things.. we meshed. Three weeks into the marriage she was laying in bed and said "When we split up all I want is the Avalanche and alimony". Uhhh what?!?! I'll skip alot but at one point I asked her about some of the things we did together(before marriage) and her response was "I did those things because I knew you liked it and I wanted to make you happy". Hmmm.. well I guess she thought that once she married me she was entitled to half of what I worked the past 16yrs to aquire, to hell with making me happy. She didn't do her homework. Sorry. I got divorced 3 weeks ago. She got nothing. Funny thing about it was that I wanted her to sign a prenup and she didn't want to but later said she would. I showed her my trust by marrying her without one, my bad. It seemed every week she would make a comment like "We should split up now while we still get along". I was completely happy and satisfied, alot of head scratching.. WTF? Apparently she wanted my truck and for me to pay her bills for the rest of her life. In her eyes that was doing me a favor. Anyways, I'm going to keep this short.. Marriage in this country is not about love, its a legal contract. I don't plan to ever get married again. If I ever find love again, she can live with me until the day I die. I will not marry her. If I had nothing and she had nothing, marriage is fine. Besides that, no way! I'm seeing a new girl right now and I actually waited until I was divorced. I have another girl lined up if this one doesn't work. I'll leave my options open until I find a girl that wants me for me, if it ever happens. If not, hey.. its a win-win situation. Screw marriage.