Why are parents so controlling nowdays? (long)

[Mr 5 0]

DemonGT

You wrote:

MR 50 im not saying im a bad *** telling my parents whats up im just saying that as kids get
older if parents dont let there parental crap slide a little kids turn 100% rebel and end up in group homes and running away from home and all that, and if parental control ends at 18 how are they going to know how to handle themselfs in the real world?

I disagree.

Your use of the term 'parental crap' is indicative of a misunderstanding as to what parental authority really entails. It's not a means to oppress you. Other posts have made that clear but you apparently can't see it.
You will, some day.

Setting rules and having reasonable expectations is not oppression and I doubt it will turn any reasonable teen into a rebel that isn't already there and finds the word 'no' a challenge that they feel they must meet and defeat. That's really a losing attitude and gets you nowhere.

"Nobody tells ME what to do" is a mindset and attitude that too many teens carry around and it just makes them look immature and clueless when they attempt to carry this attitude into real life.
Flash: Other people CAN tell you 'what to do' and will, and there are unpleasant consequences for trying to buck them.

MTV videos may give some the impression that a 'in-your-face' attitude and the right clothes make you invincible but that won't play in the real world. Those are just singers, acting for the camera.

We all have to deal with authority; whether it's parents, teachers, professors, bosses or cops. We cannot do exactly as we please all the time no matter who we are or how old we are.
To see that simple fact of social life as some sort of oppression is rather juvenile and guarantees lots of trouble in the future if followed through to it's logical conclusion.

You want to own your own business? Great. I hope that happens for you but you'll still have to deal with potential and current customers and that means being nice to people that you want to pay you money, even if they are a pain in the butt. Get used to it, that's reality.

We live in a great country that offers us more freedom than anywhere else. With that freedom comes responsibility, something that too may teens seem to leave out. It's easy to say "I want to do what I please" but what do you do to earn what you want? I mean in terms of parental trust - not money.

Saying "I'm 15" (or 16 or 17) and declaring to your parents that you will now do as you please is a ridiculous statement on it's face and more so when you think about how little one knows about anything at that age and how dependent most teenagers are on parental support.

Unfortunately, society does not support parents the way they once did. We give schools, social service agencies and courts far too much power over how parents raise children. It's become harder to discipline children properly and when they get to be teenagers, it can be a nightmare so many parents simply give up and let the kids do as they please. It's easier - but it's totally wrong.


Teens that are pregnant at 15, totally addicted to drugs, in jail for crimes or dead or maimed in a drunken car wreck at 16 or 17 are too often the result of parental non-involvment. Too late then.
Even if they escape something traumatic, the 'screw you' attitude they carry around will have eventually disastrous consequences.

As I stated; I'm making general observations here.
I can't judge individuals lives or family situations nor do I wish to do so.
I simply find your attitude all too typical and I think it's sad. Often, poor parental relationships result in poor adult (romantic) relationships and as I've stated, the rejection of any type of authority is self-defeating, at best. Hopefully, with time and experience you and others like you will mature in your outlook as others that contributed to this thread stated they did. Maybe not.

You were brave enough to give your opinion and I respect you for that, even if I (and everyone else) disagree with your premise that parents need to allow children of 15 or 16 to pretty much run wild so 'they'll learn how to be independent'. More likely, they'll learn to be bums.

Still, it's certainly been interesting and I'm very gratified by the response from all of our younger members. Way to go, people!

There really is hope for the next generation!


BTW: I edited your first post for spelling, grammar and formatting but decided to leave the rest as they were submitted. Enlightening.