Left with no choice. . . .

[silver_pilate]

Sam,

I feel ya, bud. I've been there and done that once or twice too often.

You will go from being hurt to being angry to being confused, and back again. Eventually you will start feeling stupid.

That is the TRUTH, my man. Your feelings are gonna go on a roller coaster ride for a few months. Take the advice of the guys here and make it a clean break. I did the whole "let's be friends" thing and it worked like a charm...a necrotic rotting gangrenous rabbit's foot and a one-leaf clover charm. The girl I liked for a while decided to put the brakes on and later on to get back with her ex., which she had been considering the whole time we were together. I made the mistake of trying to continue being friends. Breaking it clean with her was hard because she was, and remains, my next door neighbor. I'm over it and moving on (thank God), but every now and then when I see her ex/now current boyfriend pull up and come up the stairs, it brings back just a touch of the crap I went through.

Mr 5.0 is right when he says that girls often like to have a guy haning on their coat tails just to make them feel that they still got "it". It boosts their self esteem while trashing the guy's self image. Make sure you don't find yourself in that position.

Also, don't put this on yourself, because it doesn't seem to be anything you've done. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. That doesn't say anything about you (although the way she's gone about this, it could say something about her). There will be other ladies come into your life, and one of them is gonna make you a very happy man, and you will do the same for her. Until then, don't let your self-esteem fall. Just think...your SINGLE again! Of course, you might give it a while before dating again, but now you can go to the gym and flirt with the cute ladies manning the front desk because you don't owe your ex anything. Get out with friends and have a good time. Don't sulk by yourself...it only makes the reality of the pain all that more real.

Hang in there, bud. Isn't life fun? It really is...just a couple of scenes in this film shoulda been cut out for the scrap bin.

--nathan