After 4.5years she left me with no notice...

[jocatmust]

For
Mr. 5.0
They need TLC and that means flattery and made to feel 'special'. A bit late for all that now but if you manage to get her back, you will have to make an honest decision on marriage (yes or no, not a five year stall) and decide if this is the woman you really want to spend the rest of your life with. You're young and we all change from our teens to our early twenties and in ten years, you'll be a quite different guy, I can assure you. This may not be the woman you want to marry and that is something you'll need to look at, honestly, once you get past your misery and sadness at her decision to end a long relationship.
You have great insight and I wish my husband could read this b/c some of this is how I was feeling. Now, my husband is on the greener grass. The greener grass is another woman and doing what he wants when he wants. I needed TLC when I was sick and depressed. I never cheated on my husband, nor would I had. I am one of those faithful woman who stick by her man no matter what. I guess I picked a man who wanted everything to be perfect. The minute trouble began or he heard negative things, he was gone. I feel in my case that my husband made a mistake about marriage and was looking for anything to bolt. He got his answer and is gone. Even on our wedding day, he mention his X four hours after we were married. I should have known right then, but we were already married and I believe in marriage. I feel he married me to pissed her off. I hope they are very happy. Life is unkind, and people sometimes just don't get it until it is to late!