Need Girl Advice tomrrow.... Please help!

Topless In Texas · 06-11-2001, 08:20 AM

How bout from a women's point of view? I can completely relate to how she feels, the lack of time lately, work keeping you busy, and lack of time together. That is a VERY HARD thing to deal with. Especially if she is at all a ver EMOTIONAL person. You did the right thing by being honest and,telling her it wont go on like that forever. She could have been a little more understanding instead of getting pissed off, but everyone reacts differently to these kind of situations.
After realizing what she did, and coming to terms w/ it, I'm not surprised she said she'd change. Change is hard when you are a certain way. Alot of how successful we are at changing depends on ones emotional level(I truly believe) and how one feels about themselves. This is a VERY HARD thing for some of us to do, we just will give it our best shot, and it's not something that happens over night. We have to think differently about ourselves, and that can only happen in time.
I can understand how you want her to support your and your work, especially if it is something you are really into and enjoy. You dont want to hear negative about it. It just makes you feel bad and guilty, and stresses you out.
I would give her another shot, keep reminding her that it wont be like this forever, let her know that although you are busy, you are still THERE and are THINKING about her.Make some time for her when you can, And In turn, I bet she will start to be more supportive of your postition, And by knowing you ARE still there, and thinking of her, she will feel alot better about the situation, and be alot more positive and supportive.
Trust me: she just needs to know that you are still there. Not saying that you have to see her all the time....Just let her know you're still there.

I feel for her, that's a hard place to be. I know. You're in a hard place too. You dont want to see her hurt. Just stay honest w/ her and tell her your feelings. It always helps when you are honest and open enough to tell the other whats on your mind. If you have a hard time communicating in person, write her a letter telling her whats on your mind, and what you need from her, and leave it on a positive note...
Good luck! THings will work out. I'd hang in there!

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06-11-2001, 08:20 AM	#1
Topless In Texas Not broken anymore! Join Date: May 2001 Location: La Porte, TEXASS :) Posts: 1,963	How bout from a women's point of view? I can completely relate to how she feels, the lack of time lately, work keeping you busy, and lack of time together. That is a VERY HARD thing to deal with. Especially if she is at all a ver EMOTIONAL person. You did the right thing by being honest and,telling her it wont go on like that forever. She could have been a little more understanding instead of getting pissed off, but everyone reacts differently to these kind of situations. After realizing what she did, and coming to terms w/ it, I'm not surprised she said she'd change. Change is hard when you are a certain way. Alot of how successful we are at changing depends on ones emotional level(I truly believe) and how one feels about themselves. This is a VERY HARD thing for some of us to do, we just will give it our best shot, and it's not something that happens over night. We have to think differently about ourselves, and that can only happen in time. I can understand how you want her to support your and your work, especially if it is something you are really into and enjoy. You dont want to hear negative about it. It just makes you feel bad and guilty, and stresses you out. I would give her another shot, keep reminding her that it wont be like this forever, let her know that although you are busy, you are still THERE and are THINKING about her.Make some time for her when you can, And In turn, I bet she will start to be more supportive of your postition, And by knowing you ARE still there, and thinking of her, she will feel alot better about the situation, and be alot more positive and supportive. Trust me: she just needs to know that you are still there. Not saying that you have to see her all the time....Just let her know you're still there. I feel for her, that's a hard place to be. I know. You're in a hard place too. You dont want to see her hurt. Just stay honest w/ her and tell her your feelings. It always helps when you are honest and open enough to tell the other whats on your mind. If you have a hard time communicating in person, write her a letter telling her whats on your mind, and what you need from her, and leave it on a positive note... Good luck! THings will work out. I'd hang in there! ------------------ 1994 GT.Convertible/Performance Red. Cold Air Ind.,K&N,H.P. Pulleys,OffRoad H-Pipe,Flows,3.55,Light bar,Custom HeadRests.Lotta Chrome