Left with no choice. . . .

[joe4speed]

Originally posted by 1969Mach1
I would rather be with someone that would just tell me the truth and be like, it's not working out I would rather see someone elsel. It would hurt still but it'd be less painful in the long run.

§am.

AMEN to that.. but they keep you there just in case the other fling doesn't work. it's what all women do.. they all have a backup.

I need some Green myself.....!

[silver_pilate]

Sam,

I feel ya, bud. I've been there and done that once or twice too often.

You will go from being hurt to being angry to being confused, and back again. Eventually you will start feeling stupid.

That is the TRUTH, my man. Your feelings are gonna go on a roller coaster ride for a few months. Take the advice of the guys here and make it a clean break. I did the whole "let's be friends" thing and it worked like a charm...a necrotic rotting gangrenous rabbit's foot and a one-leaf clover charm. The girl I liked for a while decided to put the brakes on and later on to get back with her ex., which she had been considering the whole time we were together. I made the mistake of trying to continue being friends. Breaking it clean with her was hard because she was, and remains, my next door neighbor. I'm over it and moving on (thank God), but every now and then when I see her ex/now current boyfriend pull up and come up the stairs, it brings back just a touch of the crap I went through.

Mr 5.0 is right when he says that girls often like to have a guy haning on their coat tails just to make them feel that they still got "it". It boosts their self esteem while trashing the guy's self image. Make sure you don't find yourself in that position.

Also, don't put this on yourself, because it doesn't seem to be anything you've done. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. That doesn't say anything about you (although the way she's gone about this, it could say something about her). There will be other ladies come into your life, and one of them is gonna make you a very happy man, and you will do the same for her. Until then, don't let your self-esteem fall. Just think...your SINGLE again! Of course, you might give it a while before dating again, but now you can go to the gym and flirt with the cute ladies manning the front desk because you don't owe your ex anything. Get out with friends and have a good time. Don't sulk by yourself...it only makes the reality of the pain all that more real.

Hang in there, bud. Isn't life fun? It really is...just a couple of scenes in this film shoulda been cut out for the scrap bin.

--nathan

[Mustangbelle306]

Originally posted by 1969Mach1
And trust me I do put alot of my time into my relationship. I work around the clock keeping this relationship alive.

I know it's hard to grasp the concept, but imagin you have a g/f or even if you want to take your wife. Put it like this, she has a guy friend at work. She tells him Your really sexxy and hot and yummy (she uses the word yummy?!?!) and you stumble appon this and inform her of it and she tells you it's nothing.

One question...WHY?

This girl willingly entered into a committed relationship with you, yet thinks it ok to make lewd comments about other dudes...that's not even the worst part. She did ALL that, KNOWING the type of person you are, and how it would make you feel.

Then, when stuff is worked out, she continues to talk to this guy, and fib about it to you. Yeah, really sounds like someone worth fighting for .

NO ONE who claims to "love you" should even put you in a position that you would have to "fight" for them.

I always have to hear about how "nice guys get screwed over" and "chicks suck" but more and more I find that the same guys that piss and moan about women, tend to be matched up with ones that use them as doormats! You seem like a great guy Sam...can you see yourself doing to her what she has put you through? If the answer is no (which I bet it is), I can't really see why you ended up back with this woman, except for the reason of so-called love. A rewarding relationship that is good for both people involved shouldn't need round the clock maintenance. Its up to BOTH of you (not just you) to make it work, and make it last.

[Mustangbelle306]

Originally posted by joe4speed


AMEN to that.. but they keep you there just in case the other fling doesn't work. it's what all women do.. they all have a backup.

I've never in my life had a "backup". Maybe I just don't got any game

Remember, not all women are low down, rotten scumbags, just like all dudes aren't cheating pigs. I hope you'll soon meet a great woman that will make up for all the BS you've put up with in the past, Joe. You rock, and you deserve a woman that does too!

[Fox Body]

Sam, dude, I we feel your pain. Most of us have been through crap like this (or to a lesser or greater extent). There's a lot of great advice here. Spend more time with your friends (like Bake- dude seems cool). I could say a lot of things, but I'm gonna make this short: I know you feel like crap now, but just remember that you are not the only one who have been through this. We here for ya, man. Make sure to keep your head up. Don't let these crappy feelings overwhelm you, no matter what. (simple words, but sincere)

[1969Mach1]

Originally posted by Mustangbelle306
NO ONE who claims to "love you" should even put you in a position that you would have to "fight" for them.

Belle out of this whole post I wanted to see what you would say, and I expected you to give me words of wisdom that would really make me think and these were the ones. You hit right on and not only advice to me, but advice to anyone in a relationship. Let it be the b/f or g/f. I know I guess I was used abit to much and pushed over the edge. I guess we can try to remain friends but from a distance.

I never even noticed my buddy Kyle (Bake) posted, he pm'd me that message too. I sit right beside the guy everyday for 8 and a half hours. lol =) Thanks Kyle your help is appreciated. I will be getting out abit more in the future, my Mustang should be on the road in a week or so.

And sorry digital3.3 I never noticed you posted either, I had gone to the second page thinking I read all the posts on the first page , yeh I talked to my ex on the phone last night and things were ok at some parts and it would just go silent when we relised we were no longer together. Guess it takes some adjusting to get too.

Also thank you Fox Body, yeh everyone has really given a good output here, and I greatly appreciate it. It's part of life, it's just not an easy thing to deal with and I'm one of the more younger members of this page so it's great to have wisdom passed down from the less youthful/more powerful cars of the board. Even though I got the 351. hehehe j/k with you guys. But your tips and stories really made me think and help me cope and go threw this crazy time.

I will never think all woman are like this, but it is woman like this that make men go gay. WOH' WOH' WOH' Don't be thinking the wrong thing. I will crash my car into a firing glob of steel before that happens, not that there is anything wrong with being gay. Let's just say, it's woman like this that drive men to the crazy house. That's alittle better. hehehe..

Thanks boys, and girls. Even though I would like to here what some of the girls have to say about this too. Where'd odie? and TNT? hehe..... Just curious how a woman views this point sometimes too, can't always have a biased opinion.

Single guy just in-love with his car,
§am.

[Mustangbelle306]

Originally posted by 1969Mach1


Belle out of this whole post I wanted to see what you would say, and I expected you to give me words of wisdom that would really make me think and these were the ones. You hit right on and not only advice to me, but advice to anyone in a relationship. Let it be the b/f or g/f.

Thanks boys, and girls. Even though I would like to here what some of the girls have to say about this too. Where'd odie? and TNT? hehe..... Just curious how a woman views this point sometimes too, can't always have a biased opinion.

Single guy just in-love with his car,
§am.

You flatter me Sam, and your words totally brought a smile to my face --->

I know I may come across as fiery or overbearing in my words sometimes, but I only mean to show that I care. I understand how hard it is to let go, especially after a long time for the same person (very cool, btw). You get used to that girl's mannerisms, their daily schedule, the way they laugh/smile...and sometimes that familiarism is enough to (unwisely) outweigh the negative effect their behavior has on you.

I'm sure we've ALL given second chances to people that didn't deserve it because of our emotions. I'm just really glad that you figured it out, and for yourself. A thousand of your friends could give you advice until we were blue in the face, but YOU have to know in your heart who will treat you right, and who is worthy of your love I hope that you will now go on to find that woman, and until then, give your Stang a hug or two

Sincerely your pal, Belle

[1969Mach1]

hehehe... Thanks belle, and your welcome. It's slowly getting better, but every now and then it's a rough patch. She wants me to take her back and is appoligising alot for what she did. But I told her, this isn't like any other time, it's not a situation where we can hug and kiss and make up. It doesn't work that easily anymore. She is pretty upset at herself. And sometimes the anger just hits me and I get really mad, and I just tell her how it is which leads to a arguement that doesn't make things any better. For now I think I will stay friends but I don't know if she'll ever understand, and it's hard for me to even think that cause she applogizes and in a way I want to take her back thinking it won't happen again but deep down I have a feeling it will.

Yeh, I guess my pony will be gettin' alittle more lovin' now.

Still Fairly Confused,
§am.

[joe4speed]

Originally posted by Mustangbelle306


I've never in my life had a "backup". Maybe I just don't got any game

Remember, not all women are low down, rotten scumbags, just like all dudes aren't cheating pigs. I hope you'll soon meet a great woman that will make up for all the BS you've put up with in the past, Joe. You rock, and you deserve a woman that does too!

AWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!!!! I CAN FEEL THE LOVE!!!!!!!

You made my day, Belle!