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Registered Member
Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 21
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![]() (I know this is long but plese take the time to help me!)
![]() Well I dont even know where to start but, I need to talk!! I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. We just had our one year a few weeks ago. We got along really great! We were talking of marriage! And looking at rings. Some of you may know him. His love of mustangs keeps him on this site a lot! ![]() Truly, Jessey [This message has been edited by SxyRedStang (edited 10-21-2001).] |
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Registered Member
Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Sale Creek, TN. C. S. A.
Posts: 4,652
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![]() look i'm no ann lander's, but you are only 20 so enjoy life while you are young, i got married when i was 21 it didnt last 2 year's because i was still rowdy & not ready to settle down, i waited till ihad setteled down to get married again, & have married for 16 years now young guy's need to have thier wild time's first, i kno he-l i still like to raise a little still , but you are young enjoy life for awhile, hope this helped. see ya.
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Tubbed and Juiced
Join Date: Mar 2001
Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma
Posts: 1,861
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![]() ***I had tears in my eyes while he was eating and that made him more pissed. After he was done eating he told me again to go that he didnt need me.
Look Jessey, this guy seems like a real Jacka$$, and I think you need to forget about him and move on. You were crying and it pissed him off? WTF? But I know there are always 2 sides to every story, and each side is probaly different, because people think, and take things differently. I don't think 28 and 20 work well together, "MOST" of the time those relationships don't really go well. Just my opinion. This guy sounds like a real loser, he'd rather go to a homeless shelter instead of staying with his G/F. Someone has some real problems, no one in their right mind would do that. P.S. that was one hell of a long post. ;O) ------------------ -1989 GT, not stock. -2000 Camaro SS-A4, 13.4's bone stock. -1989 Chevy S-10, EX. Cab-383(500+hp on motor), tubbed, trick flow heads, trick flow pistons, etc... autometer phantom gauges, "built" 700R4, roll cage, lexan back window, corbeau seats, R.H.S. 5 harnesses, Fuel cell, convo pro wheels, 15x14's with 29x18.5 M/T'S on back, 15x4's on front, nitrous, and so much more! [This message has been edited by 1BAD89 (edited 10-20-2001).] |
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#4 |
Registered Member
Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 21
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![]() Yes I know this was a long post! And I am sorry! I really needed to get it all off my chest though! And yes I realize there are two sides to every story. But I tried to be as non-biased as I could. And Crazy horse GT and IBAD89 thank you both very much for replying! And anyone else who does, it will be GREATLY APPRECIATED!
Thanks, Jessey |
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#5 |
Registered Member
Join Date: May 1999
Posts: 5,246
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![]() Here is my take on it. You need some more self esteem. He's shopping for rings for you, not his friends girlfriend. Who cares if she's hot? There are a lot of hot girls out there, that's the truth. In my opinion you totally opened the door for his comment about the other girl. #1 He's pissed to begin with, #2 He's probably giving a detailed explanation because the conversation started on the premis the friend was gay so he was attempting to inform you of the g/f, #3 Talking about the friend isn't gonna make him any more pleased.
You in my opinion probably read WAY to much into what he was saying. Are you sure it wasn't Yeah! (amazingly enough she's hot) or Yeah! (don't know why she's with that guy?) So then after making him feel bad, when he's already pissed you blow it out of proportion at the resturant, probably making him feel worse, so he gets mad at you. Not saying it's the right thing for him to do, but probably what happend. Then since he's got the serious jitters about getting married and the future and all that stuff (like most guys), so he see's a convienent way to buy some more time. IE Spaz out and create a situation that creates confusion. (When he insisted on staying at a homeless shelter) In this case, it's a clear showing of his IQ when angry. (not getting any scholarships there) I definately agree you had a legitimate point with walking back alone. For that, he deserves an extreme *** kicking. (Like what the Vikings are going to do to the Packers tomorrow) Okay, even worse than that. I'm actually serious about that. I can also see his point in that matter. You didn't back off, so what was his choice? How does he "win" that battle? The answer is simple, the guy doesn't because the girl he cares about is WAY WAY WAY more important than the idea of winning a fight. Nor for my relationship diagnostic. He's too probably too old for you. 8 years generally seperates all your goals and desires. Since you are 20, I'm presuming you have an additional 2 or 3 years left of college to attend. Having somebody in college, living away from you is a very hard thing. It's definately my opinion that it's not the correct situation to be working on marriage. It's your call though. My mom and dad are 8 years apart. It's a huge difference in the way they see things sometimes. I'm not involved in your relationship, but don't hang onto it just because it is a relationship. If you two are serious, and you do love each other, then great. If not, don't make it a "worlds ending" scenerio. I hope my response isn't too harsh, I'm not trying to make it that way. Just the way I see things. Good luck in any case, and keep your head up! ![]() Kell |
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Registered Member
Join Date: Aug 2001
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 21
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![]() Hey Kell, thanks for the reply. I was a little unsettled when I began reading it, but I realize that you have made some good points. Maybe I do need some more self-esteem, but lets face it, for most girls when there signifant other says to them that a girl is hot, they generally to not take it very well. And besides that like my mother said, if he really loves me he should be understanding to the fact that I am sensitive, and that what he may say may hurt me. Im not saying to walk on eggshells but he and I have had this type of conversation before. And he knows how I feel, besides that he is the same way. He got upset and hurt that I said I thought some guy on the TV was good looking. So maybe in that respect we are too much alike. As for the age, I dont know. My whole family with the exception of my parents have are married to someone who is way older or younger then them. Thank you soo much for the reply! This helps me a lot. All of the replys do!
Thanks, Jessey |
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AKA "Dr. Evil"
Join Date: Feb 1999
Location: South Fork Ranch
Posts: 1,721
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![]() Hey Sxy,
Man that was a long post... Let me give you an opinion from someone who's been married over 10 years... First off, Unit's right. While its pretty normal for most girls your age to be over-sensitive, it just makes things worse when dealing with us guys. We are EXTREMELY simple, and say what we mean. Hardly is there ever anything hidden in what we say. It may not seem so now, but what you're going through is a pretty normal "growing-up" experience. It may seem "world-ending" stuff but its not. Many of us go through MANY failed relationships in our lives before we find anything with real merit. A secure relationship doesn't have problems when the words "She's hot" or "He's hot" come up. Secure relationships are not only based on physical attraction, but are mostly based on personality and how well you get along outside of the "lovey-dovey" arena. I can tell my wife that a woman is really good looking, and she'll smile knowing darn well that I'm going home with HER (my wife) at the end of the night. There's no fear in it at all. Much of this is your youth showing, and like I said, is pretty normal stuff that we all go through. So stand up, say your peace to your boyfriend. If it works out, GREAT! If it doesn't, keep studying at college, make tons of money, and watch the guys come running... ![]() ------------------ Adam "Hammer" Packett: Moderator, Gulf War Veteran ![]() ![]() |
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#8 |
Registered Member
Join Date: Oct 2001
Posts: 120
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![]() Hey Jessie,
If this guy gets mad at you for crying and makes ou walk home alone at night, then you DON'T NEED HIM!!! being in a bad mood over his car is no excuse. My ex-husband was like that. That's why he's my EX. At 20 and in college, you have alot of good times ahead for you. Don'e waste it on someone who dosen't treat you like GOLD. As far as looks go, who cares. if you are beautiful on the inside, it will oooze onto the outside. (almost sounds gross dosen't it ![]() Good luck and happy hunting, for a REAL man!! |
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It's a lot like a race car
Join Date: Aug 2000
Location: Meridian, MS
Posts: 4,130
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#10 |
It's a lot like a race car
Join Date: Aug 2000
Location: Meridian, MS
Posts: 4,130
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![]() He was having a bad day already and getting in a fight with his g/f was something he REALLY didn't need at that time, especilly over something he proably saw as pretty insignificant. But making you walk home alone was a total a$$hole thing to do. But if he really loves you he will not let you go.
P.S. why are some people so sensitive about themselves. Why do you care what other people think about you. If they don't like you tell them to go F#ck off. And I will tell you something if you boyfriend loves you, YOU are the most beutiful woman in the world to him. just my .02 ------------------ THE SLO PONY 1992 Ford Mustand LX. 2.3 liter four-banger, auto. Future mods: V-8 swap. ![]() If it ain't broke, you ain't tryin hard enough |
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#11 |
Registered Member
Join Date: Oct 2001
Posts: 1
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![]() My bf and I have been together for about a year and 2 weeks and I totally know what you mean about the fighting. Sometimes our fights have made me just want to say it's over and right when I open my mouth to say it, he says something that makes me remember why I love him so much. I think the way he treated you was completely disrespectful and showed that he may not love you as much as you think he does. If he really does love you then he'll realize how much more important you are than his "winning" the fight. Since he has a bad temper, give him another day or so and if he dosen't at least apoligize then you're better off without him.
I hope everything works out. Ashley |
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#12 |
IRAQ VET
Join Date: Feb 2000
Location: high desert California
Posts: 1,480
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![]() I will tell u one thing. Just don't worry about it. Go out and have fun. Girl u are in college and young it will be some of the best times of ur life. Go party and fool around and act crazy worry about growinng up and getting married and stuff after college. I ran around like a complete idiot my four years of college. U should do the same it is alot of fun.
there is no way in hell he should have let u walk home by urself like that. I don't care how made he was. |
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The Redneck James Bond
Join Date: Sep 2000
Location: Fayetteville NC
Posts: 1,707
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![]() SxyRedStang.
I would try to give some advice, but that would be hipocritical of me. Guess I should follow my own advice before I go suggesting anything to anyone else. The only thing I have to say is, it doesnt sound like he's the right one for you. All your going to do is complicate your life and be unhappy. Its hard to finally turn away (Trust me I KNOW from experience). But its dispicable the way it sounds like he treats you. Dont forget though, what ever you do, we at MustangWorks are here for ya to talk to. We dont care, what color, what race, what nationality, what size, what your religion is, all we care about is the person within. (Okay, I'm begining to sound like a TV pshycic or something, or a Cheap Shrink) If you ever want to talk, you know where to find us. I say let the bum go. Your young, you like cars. Women who like cars and know about them are rare. ------------------ 64 1/2 "D" code Red Mustang Coupe. 289, C4, Mallory duel point. Ported & Polished 65 heads shaved .01 with 351 valves, 11:1 comp, 1.7:1 rockers, blue wolverine lumpy cam, modified 4100 Hipo 4 barrel. GT Apperance pkg. And to many others to list 2000 Perf Red Mustang GT. 5spd. BBK Underdrive pulleys, Flotech off-road H pipe. Hurst T-Handle, 40 series Flowmasters, Steeda Tri-Ax. Ordered 4:10's. 64 1/2 red 6cyl coupe. Future resto. |
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Yay for Chickys
Join Date: Feb 2001
Posts: 1,532
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![]() [QUOTE]Originally posted by 69fastback:
[B]Girl u are in college and young it will be some of the best times of ur life. Go party and fool around and act crazy worry about growinng up and getting married and stuff after college./[B] Why does everyone say this? This is not what college is about. My parents are paying for my school, and there's no way I'm going to waste their money and MY time at keggers and going home with people. Not to flame you, Fastback, I've just heard that so much in the past few months, and I'm sick of it. Being 18 to 22 is not automatically a reason to trash your morals or self respect, and it doesn't make you a wierdo because you want to spend that time of your life with one person. Now, if that person mistreats you or you're having problems, that's a different story. But dont let ANYONE tell you you're missing out on life because you aren't partying, etc. You do what's right for you, and let everyone else figure themselves out. Good luck. ------------------ Elisha~5.0 HO Racing (ahem HIGH OUTPUT!) 1994 GT: The Primered Wonder! Email: Belle@Mustangworks.com AOL name: FZRBelle306 [This message has been edited by Mustangbelle306 (edited 10-23-2001).] |
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