Update: Remember when she left me after 4.5 years? well....

[Mr 5 0]

Sky:

She'll get over you the same way you got over her: out of necessity. Ignore her. She deserted you for another guy. You grieved and suffered but you finally moved on with your life. That her little fling didn't work out is not your problem. The trust you once had between you is gone, or it should be, if you have any sense of dignity left. If you were foolish enough to take her back you'll always wonder what she's thinking if she looks just a little too long at some other man or makes a positive comment abouut some guy at work. That kind of latent mistrust can destroy you and certainly ruin a relationship. If you give her the slightest bit of encouragement, you're doomed - as far as moving on with your life minus the fickle g/f.

Ignore the drama bits, the appeals to your sympathy and the ego-boost you naturally get when a girl you still care about practically throws herself at you. It won't last. She dumped you for another guy because she didn't think you were marriage material and didn't treat her the way she expected to be treated. Fine. How much do you think her attitude has really changed? Right now she's near-desperate and thinks she's really blown it so she'll promise you anything to get you back, just like you would do if the situation were reversed. Problem is; it won't last and in six months or so when her fear of losing you has safely passed, she'll be whining about how you don't appreciate her and yada yada yada. Not to mention looking at other guys...maybe. See, you'll never know for sure, making a real, committed relationship rather tenuous, at best.

You know what to do but whether you can actually do it is up to you, Sky. Your life, your decision. We all wish you the best and hope you do what's right for you.