My life is over.

[Mr 5 0]

89 Cobra LX:

You wrote:

I've made my decision and I'm happy with it.

We all wish you well then but your thread title states
'My Life is Over' and your first post goes on about your fears and misgivings toward marriage.

What did you expect?

If it was just a joke, it wasn't very obvious.

No one wants to see another guy marry and do so for the wrong reasons (age, guilt, sense of responsibility), thus making two people unhappy.

I guess, next time, if you're just venting your fears, you need to say so and avoid phrases such as 'My Life is Over' or else just add the symbol j/k to the title or the post so folks understand that what you post is not to be taken literally.

That said; I wish you good luck with the proposal.
Make it in a private place...it's not fair to burden her with a public setting...and be straightforward. Don't do a long lead-in.

Start with a compliment; "You complete me" from the Jerry McGuire movie was great but already taken.
Tell her you love her...look her in the eyes as you say it...and then bring out the ring and ask her to marry you...if she will. Give her that 'out' ("If you will"). She'll shriek, probably cry and she may even say "I need to think about it". Don't panic if she does and don't get all pouty, just say, "Sure, take as long as you want". Doubtful that will happen after a 4 1/2 year 'courtship', but you never know. Did I mention to tell her you love her?

Good Luck and sorry about the negative posts, including mine.