Why are parents so controlling nowdays? (long)

[Mr 5 0]

gt lee/odie

Demon can speak for himself of course, but as I see it, you probably expect a bit too much from him. I suspect he posted his original statement expecting to receive high-fives from others about how 'controlling' parents are and isn't it awful?
No doubt, the negative responses he got back (which he handled well, BTW) probably cooled his desire to pursue the subject so the change of topic in mid-stream is predictable and understandable, although a tad disconcerting.

DemonGT is 20, has always lived at home, obviously has indulgent parents and if he's like I was at his age, makes girls, cars and music his priorities. He also has a short attention span.

He hasn't a clue as what parenting entails and what having the responsibility for another person really means. How could he? Look at his background: He lives home, carouses around with no real parental supervision and puts education on a back burner in favor of paying off and modiifing his cars. He's a typical young guy. I've seen (and supervised) worse. I've seen better, too, but Demon is pretty average. His world revolves around himself and what he wants at the moment. No real life goals.

This is what parents are supposed to do for their children. Give direction, set some reasonable expectations and see that they are met. When this doesn't happen, you get, well, the all-too-typical young man or women who does whatever seems like fun at the moment, doesn't really plan for a future and gets angry at the slightest hint of authority. It's simple self-absorption and very common, unfortunately. Hopefully, Demon will mature into a responsible young adult in a few more years, but who knows? With little guidance except his own desires and an attitude based on self absorption, it could go either way.

We all hope for the best for our members and friends but ultimately, they'll decide their own future and some will fail, others succeed and some will just get along and wonder, at 40, why they couldn't have done a lot better than they did in life. Some of those will blame parents, friends, teachers, the boss, society - anybody but themselves. A few will face the truth; they made stupid choices at a young age, rejected parental authority and advice and did as they pleased.
Those kinds of choices eventually have consequences, often bad ones. Sometimes things can be reversed before one gets too far along to change...but not always.

As I said; we can only hope for the best for everyone and who knows, maybe someone actually learned something by reading the replies on this thread. We can hope.