Problem with Love

[blackfang]

I am going to post being i am going through what you are. My g/f (for 7 months) just broke up with me. We lived together w/another roomie, and had the same pt job together in a bar. DO NOT DO THIS PEOPLE! Ever since we started living their with our roomie Melissa(was a close friend) our relationship started to deteriorate. Melissa would pit us against each other so it was hard to decifer who was really right and who was being scapecoated. Anyway she ended up calling it quits. We are still friends. I wanted to try and work things out, being we both moved out. However she is not sure, and wants time. I told her hey take all the time you need. However, when you come back don't be shocked if i don't want you back. From my point of view and many female friends of mine, that is her way of playing the field, and keeping me as the backup. I am giving her the space she wanted. What she does with it is up to her. We loved each other.
Now for you. Do not take her back! She has no clue what she wants in you. Would you like it when people promise you money, give it to you, then take it away repeatedly? Thats what is going on. She is not ready for a relationship judgine on how she is acting. Give her space, and alot of it. A wise old saying i learned is this. "You don't know what you have until it's gone". Give her a reason to think that, and maybe it might help her to realize what she truly wants. Now if she does not want you then it is for the better, for both of you. Hope my rambling sheds some light into this whole ordeal.
Phil.