The story of a real hero

[2000stanggirl]

Originally posted by PKRWUD
FWIW, I have recently come to the conclusion that women are by far the superior sex, and if in fact there is a God, odds are she's a woman, too. I can't go into detail, but the women I know, and have known, will put up with, deal with, and work through the toughest, hardest, most painful experiences, and keep on ticking. I don't know too many men that have the kind of strength it takes to be a woman. Really.

Take care,
-Chris

Funny you should say that.....my husband at the time was totally unable to deal with the situation. He very rarely came to the hospital (I stayed with Brayden 27/4) and when he did it was for very short times. My ex chose not to bond with Brayden out of fear (I think he thought it was best not to get attached because his prognosis was so poor) and shame (he couldn't deal with having a child that was "different") My oldest son, Travis, is only 17 months older than Brayden and is extremely gifted (estimated IQ 155+!) Sadly, my ex could only bond with Travis. His attitude eventually lead to the demise of our marriage. I felt as though I was a single mom when it came to dealing with Brayden's issues. I am the one that stayed up all nite watching him breath when his heart failure was causing problems. I am the one that got up in the middle of the nite to change his IV bags and take vitals.

However, despite my ex husbands parental short comings, I must point out that not all men are that weak. My husband now has unconditionally accepted both of the boys. He has never been married, and has no children of his own, but has more love for the boys than their own biological father. He has stood by me, helped me make medical choices, and supported Brayden thru surgeries and hospitalizations. I firmly believe his love has helped Brayden overcome many obsticles, and allowed him to reach for his full potential. (on a side note, I don't think he could handle being at home with them all day like me. LOL)