What tip can you give about loving?

[Mr 5 0]

When we're 17, we still have a lot to learn about love and committment but most of us don't realize that (at that point) and assume that the girl/guy we are dating is 'it' - forever and the world starts and stops when that person is with us.

That's typical, often quite a nice feeling and also dangerous because along with the intense emotions we have to learn that there is more than one person in the world who will love us and that we'll love back.

Neither girls nor guys know what they truly want at 17 and both hormones and emotions run very high and can lead to rash decisions. I think this is rather obvious.

If you love her, let her go is a cliche but still valid.

You're not ready, she's not ready, whatever, but the relationship is probably just one of many you'll both have and you would do well to distract yourself with other things besides thinking about this girl and getting crazy about her being close to someone else.

You don't own her - never did - and she has a right to be with someone else, as do you, by the way. Centering on this one girl is a mistake and you probably realize that so let me restate it for you.

Move on, there are other great girls out there but you'll never find them moping around having revenge fantasies about her new boyfriend. That's loser stuff and you're no loser so let her go and get busy with your life. Another girl will come along. You're only 17 and this is just one experience in a long life of love and relationships you'll have. Don't let it make you crazy because only you can decide where to go from here and living in the past is really boring.

Best of luck to you.