After 4.5years she left me with no notice...

[joe4speed]

I'm so sorry, Sky. I have been in your shoes a few times, and I know exactly how you feel. There really are no words of comfort that anyone here will be able to give you, except that it WILL get better and easier. I agree with everything Jim said, and you need to try to be careful about wanting to get even with the guy, even though I know it would feel realllllyyyyyy good to **** with him. But it won't win you any points, it takes two to tango, and your girl is a part of this as well. Just be careful in this time that your emotions might influence your good judgement.
I have more to add, but Jim and others summed it up well.
Just try to take it easy, find some good distractions, it's the best way.
Btw... I have been single for a few years by choice because of a couple similar situations. I still date and have alot of fun, but single CAN BE really nice! Most of my attached friends, male and female, envy me more times than not.

Take care, Sky. I hope things work out for the best.
Joe