After 4.5years she left me with no notice...

[jocatmust]

{ Not the initial arrangement we made, or what I wanted. We initially set she would pay 1/3 I would pay 2/3 as I have a larger income than she does. She was struggling to get out of debt the last year and I kept paying 100% in efforts to help he rise above that, and I even gave her $1900 over time to pay down those credit cards. One of her complains was that I nagged her daily about money. I did. Because I felt like I was sacrificing and saving, and not buying the things I wanted in efforts to save for OUR future, while I didnt see her making the same sacrifies, and not making much progress on her debt. She's young and has not gone through what I went through in debt, so I have a different perspective. I had $22,000 in cc debt when I was 20 years old, which I am finally out from undernow. }

You wanted to move in together and you knew she was having financial trouble. Yes, I am sure that it bothers you that she did not go with her word. She is human and if you talk to her, she probably would tell you that it makes her feel bad not to be able to do as she said. To nag her is bad, you are not her parent. Everybody wants to live with their best fan instead of their worst crititic. I was insulted on a daily basis and it made me feel bad about myself. Please talk to one another with an open mind and not be defensive. Good Luck and wish you the best.
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