Before I marry

[Mr 5 0]

Originally Posted by PowerSlideGT

I was just thinking, actually iv been thinking about this for hm.... a year or so anyways, i have seen my cousin rebuild his life 3-4 times from divorce. seeing him loose his hot rods and every thing else every single time. So i have realize how to stop this... how to save my livly hood and my pride... PRENUBSUAL! whats mine is mine whats hers is hers..... mmmm good ideai do belive

I assume you mean that you and your intended bride will jointly sign a prenuptial agreement that states whatever each individual party brings to the marriage will remain their personal possession for the life of the marriage or until the possession is sold or otherwise disposed of. It usually states other divisions of property and either waives alimony (in the event of a divorce) or states a specific alimony financial agreement ahead of time. Things like that.

A prenuptial agreement is like an insurance policy and it does protect your financial assets, such as a car or a house currently in your name, before you take your wedding vows. I happen to think it is a bit cynical and basically says that you expect the marriage to fail - so you are planning for it. Some woman will simply refuse to start a marriage with that kind of negative expectation...and some want a 'pre-nup' before they will accept the engagement ring. It all depends on the people involved and their expectations and attitudes toward marriage.

Frankly, I think that if anyone is that wary about being financially 'taken' by a future wife, they are probably not truly ready for the long-term committment of marriage. However, if the woman you intend to marry is really O.K. with the idea, it can't hurt to have a prenuptial agreement in place.

[Dark_5.0]

The owner of the company I work for set up his pre-nup sweet.

She gets nothing from him unless she has his baby, if she has his baby she gets half.

he had his nuts clipped years ago and she doesnt know it. So basicly she has been screwing his brains out for the last 3 years trying to get pregnant.

[Unit 5302]

I think the pre-nup is an absolute requirement these days. While Mr 5.0 views the pre-nup as proof either you are not ready to make the commitment or a parachute in case you decide to bail out, I view it as protection in case the other person isn't truly ready. I feel most divorces are the fault of both parties, any relationship is only as strong as the weakest link. If your "wife" decides she has found a man that is more attractive or more intoxicating after you're married and decides she'd rather take a chance at finding a new Mr. Right, it's nearly impossible from stopping her.

Maybe I'm just a bit cynical when it comes to marriage as I consider it a joke in America today, but I can cite divorce statistics that say marriages in this country are treated as disposable.

Even if you're committed, the other party may not be, and in fact, the odds are they aren't. Tough to swallow, and depressing as it is, I feel people have a duty to protect themselves and their livelyhood these days.

No offense Dark, but marrying somebody and not telling them that you will never be able to produce a child is horrifying. Hopefully, not sharing that information with his wife will get the pre-nup voided should they decide to part ways. Personally, failure to disclose that kind of information is grounds for divorce on it's own, IMHO.

[Dark_5.0]

Originally Posted by Unit 5302

No offense Dark, but marrying somebody and not telling them that you will never be able to produce a child is horrifying. Hopefully, not sharing that information with his wife will get the pre-nup voided should they decide to part ways. Personally, failure to disclose that kind of information is grounds for divorce on it's own, IMHO.

I agree, I would never do anything like that but I thought it was hilarious when he told us about it. The fact that his wife is the stereotypical pretty blonde trophy wife makes it that much funnier.

She is getting close to forty she is probably putting in some overtime at this point

[Stang_Crazy]

Originally Posted by Mr 5 0

Frankly, I think that if anyone is that wary about being financially 'taken' by a future wife, they are probably not truly ready for the long-term committment of marriage.

I agree 100%. It's amazes me how many people are worried about their "stuff" when splitting up. You can always work hard to earn money and replace the "stuff" that is taken away. A marriage is a life-long committment to a person you can't see yourself living without. It's a big decision....one you should be absolutely certain of before making the choice to get married. If it were me -that was married- and the marriage didn't work out (for whatever reason), I would be more concerned with WHY it didn't work out rather than "who's getting what stuff". To be that materialistic and shallow after a life-long bond has been shattered is rediculous IMO.

[rwhite65]

I do not see it as being shallow. I guess maybe my vision of society has been skewed by my career. Regardless, until I feel the courts start to even the field a little bit when it comes to belongings, who pays the bills, etc....I think people would be foolish not to atleast consider it.
Ryan