Before I marry

[Stang_Crazy]

Originally Posted by Unit 5302

Yeah, and if you put jackstands under your car when you jack it up, aren't you just setting the car up to fall?

My car doesn't express feelings, emotions, or thoughts. Comparing a car on jackstands to a marriage doesn't make any sense. A car is an inanimate object. A human being is not. Apples to oranges.

Originally Posted by Unit 5302

Your conclusion is so irresponsible that you obviously haven't given much thought to the whole concept.

Irresponsible because I don't care about petty materialistic things?? If I lost everything it wouldn't matter. It would matter WHY I lost everything but not WHAT I lost. In the end, it's just stuff. A marriage is a union where two people begin a life-long journey together. If I ever make that committment, I'm not going to worry about 'covering my ass'.

Originally Posted by Unit 5302

I treat the concept as insurance in case the other person isn't as committed as they would indicate.

I would hope a grown adult could judge whether they are ready for marriage or not....but sadly some adults don't know how to commit to someone or something. The divorce rate today is a scary number and like you, I am doing my part and staying single.....for now.

[Topless In Texas]

Im still mad about the whole thing, and decided to delete this post. I should not say dont marry. Prenups can work, I guess, depending on where you live. I can understand why someone would want one, if they have alot to lose. I can completely understand, after seeing what I had seen.
I would say to anyone, Do what you feel is right. I just saw a whole side of dealing first hand with a divorce that was very nasty, and got caught in the middle of it all.
Although I would be hurt if asked to sign one, I would do it. But, like stated in some other posts. Alot of prenups are not worth the paper they are printed on. And, its a shame that when a divorce turns that nasty and ugly, the permanent scars that are left on the one who was the 'target' to get screwed. They never look at marriage the same again.
TNT