Help!! Need some Advice and pickmeups!!

Hammer · 10-20-2001, 03:53 PM

Hey Sxy,

Man that was a long post...

Let me give you an opinion from someone who's been married over 10 years...

First off, Unit's right. While its pretty normal for most girls your age to be over-sensitive, it just makes things worse when dealing with us guys.

We are EXTREMELY simple, and say what we mean. Hardly is there ever anything hidden in what we say.

It may not seem so now, but what you're going through is a pretty normal "growing-up" experience. It may seem "world-ending" stuff but its not. Many of us go through MANY failed relationships in our lives before we find anything with real merit.

A secure relationship doesn't have problems when the words "She's hot" or "He's hot" come up. Secure relationships are not only based on physical attraction, but are mostly based on personality and how well you get along outside of the "lovey-dovey" arena.

I can tell my wife that a woman is really good looking, and she'll smile knowing darn well that I'm going home with HER (my wife) at the end of the night. There's no fear in it at all.

Much of this is your youth showing, and like I said, is pretty normal stuff that we all go through.
So stand up, say your peace to your boyfriend. If it works out, GREAT! If it doesn't, keep studying at college, make tons of money, and watch the guys come running...

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Adam "Hammer" Packett:
Moderator, Gulf War Veteran

GO GET 'EM BOYS!

10-20-2001, 03:53 PM	#7
Hammer AKA "Dr. Evil" Join Date: Feb 1999 Location: South Fork Ranch Posts: 1,721	Hey Sxy, Man that was a long post... Let me give you an opinion from someone who's been married over 10 years... First off, Unit's right. While its pretty normal for most girls your age to be over-sensitive, it just makes things worse when dealing with us guys. We are EXTREMELY simple, and say what we mean. Hardly is there ever anything hidden in what we say. It may not seem so now, but what you're going through is a pretty normal "growing-up" experience. It may seem "world-ending" stuff but its not. Many of us go through MANY failed relationships in our lives before we find anything with real merit. A secure relationship doesn't have problems when the words "She's hot" or "He's hot" come up. Secure relationships are not only based on physical attraction, but are mostly based on personality and how well you get along outside of the "lovey-dovey" arena. I can tell my wife that a woman is really good looking, and she'll smile knowing darn well that I'm going home with HER (my wife) at the end of the night. There's no fear in it at all. Much of this is your youth showing, and like I said, is pretty normal stuff that we all go through. So stand up, say your peace to your boyfriend. If it works out, GREAT! If it doesn't, keep studying at college, make tons of money, and watch the guys come running... ------------------ Adam "Hammer" Packett: Moderator, Gulf War Veteran GO GET 'EM BOYS!