Need Girl Advice tomrrow.... Please help!

Skyman · 06-11-2001, 04:11 AM

Well Ive been w/ my girl almost a year and a half now. Lately I've been really busy gettin my comptuer company going, and working on my ACN network marketing business. And well she has been less than supportive, and complaining about time with her. Ive tried to explain I won't be this busy forever, but honestly work is my #1 priority right now as I wish to get my self established to make a large amount of money. That just pissed her off. And she and I had argued over it for a few days. Finally I told her it was over, I couldnt stand her being around and being negative about my work and not supporting me in it.

At first it was hard, but I actually started feeling well, and being so busy has kept my mind of it. I have enjoyed not having to worry about someone else, and be able to focus 100% on my work. Anyways, she comes back and completely says she will change, etc etc. I honestly don't belive its true, because of the behavior exhibited before. She claims now she understands how much work it is etc. But I think this would change back if we were to get back together again. so I say NO. Anyways, another day passes and she comes over to watch the laker game today.

Then tonight she calls me asking what she can do to get back together with me. And I really still care for her a lot. I mean being together this long and going through so much together I don't want to hurt her at all. I was trying to be as nice as I could but I said there is no way. And she lost it. Literally crying histerically on the phone with me for an hour and a half. It made me feel like crap, that I made someone feel so bad. Its horrible, I don't want to cause anyone pain and hurt.

She says all her ideas for the future have been crushed etc. When we first started going out... (4-5months) She would say, I just want to marry you etc. And I would say yeah that would be awesome blah blah... It didn't seem like a reality, seemed like way off in the future. Now I realize what kinds of commitments and sutff those are now. I think her goals in life are lower than mine. She wants to just get a job as a teacher and raise a family. Which is great. But I wish to not be stuck down to taht, make a ,ot of money, run my businesses and have some freedom and mobility.

Anyways, after the long crying session I told her we would talk it out tomrrow. I just had to try to ease her pain. I was so close to going back with her, just because I didn't want her to suffer anymore.

Anyways... staying up late sittin here in the dark listening to MTV in the back ground I couldn't help but think of her and get some what sentimental...

I wish someone else could make these kind of decisions for me. I can't take putting someone else through that kind of pain.

Thanks guys...

Skyler

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-1989 Saleen Mustang #406- TFS Heads, E-303, edelbrock intake,70MM TB, 73mm MAF, off road H, headers and 3chamber flows.
12.55@107mph
50-175 Nitrous Works WET Kit just added.

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06-11-2001, 04:11 AM	#1
Skyman I need 110mph Trap Speed! Join Date: Feb 1999 Location: So, CA Posts: 4,315	Need Girl Advice tomrrow.... Please help! Well Ive been w/ my girl almost a year and a half now. Lately I've been really busy gettin my comptuer company going, and working on my ACN network marketing business. And well she has been less than supportive, and complaining about time with her. Ive tried to explain I won't be this busy forever, but honestly work is my #1 priority right now as I wish to get my self established to make a large amount of money. That just pissed her off. And she and I had argued over it for a few days. Finally I told her it was over, I couldnt stand her being around and being negative about my work and not supporting me in it. At first it was hard, but I actually started feeling well, and being so busy has kept my mind of it. I have enjoyed not having to worry about someone else, and be able to focus 100% on my work. Anyways, she comes back and completely says she will change, etc etc. I honestly don't belive its true, because of the behavior exhibited before. She claims now she understands how much work it is etc. But I think this would change back if we were to get back together again. so I say NO. Anyways, another day passes and she comes over to watch the laker game today. Then tonight she calls me asking what she can do to get back together with me. And I really still care for her a lot. I mean being together this long and going through so much together I don't want to hurt her at all. I was trying to be as nice as I could but I said there is no way. And she lost it. Literally crying histerically on the phone with me for an hour and a half. It made me feel like crap, that I made someone feel so bad. Its horrible, I don't want to cause anyone pain and hurt. She says all her ideas for the future have been crushed etc. When we first started going out... (4-5months) She would say, I just want to marry you etc. And I would say yeah that would be awesome blah blah... It didn't seem like a reality, seemed like way off in the future. Now I realize what kinds of commitments and sutff those are now. I think her goals in life are lower than mine. She wants to just get a job as a teacher and raise a family. Which is great. But I wish to not be stuck down to taht, make a ,ot of money, run my businesses and have some freedom and mobility. Anyways, after the long crying session I told her we would talk it out tomrrow. I just had to try to ease her pain. I was so close to going back with her, just because I didn't want her to suffer anymore. Anyways... staying up late sittin here in the dark listening to MTV in the back ground I couldn't help but think of her and get some what sentimental... I wish someone else could make these kind of decisions for me. I can't take putting someone else through that kind of pain. Thanks guys... Skyler ------------------ -1989 Saleen Mustang #406- TFS Heads, E-303, edelbrock intake,70MM TB, 73mm MAF, off road H, headers and 3chamber flows. 12.55@107mph 50-175 Nitrous Works WET Kit just added.