To Complicate Matters even More! Get asked out By some one else.

[Mercury]

Okay, this is getting a little Nuts now.
I don't know if I'm in Heaven - or Hell!

I wake up today, still jazzed about the 'new girl' at work asking me out; brew some coffee, sit down in front of the computer.

Take a few nice sips of sobering hot dark coffee. The clouds of early morning haze begin to lift. I click my E-mail Icon on my desktop and see there are 5 new messages.

A few are E-mail's from Mustang Works, letting me know that I've had replies to Posts (even though I remove the check from the box), one from my ex-girlfriend, and one from my ex-girlfriend's best friend.

I check the e-mail from my Ex first The usual; Blah blah blah. I miss you...Blah blah blah. I'm sorry....Blah blah blah..You're an Insensitive Jerk...Blah blah ablah. You know, the usual mixed emotion crap.

I check the Message from my Ex's best friend. I about drop the steaming hot coffee in my lap. She E-mailed me and had asked me out to Lunch today (Friday), and asks if I have any 'free time' this weekend.

This girl is cute, too. Real cute. Me and her have a lot in common also. A lot in common. There's a lot more to this than there sounds. Something I always suspected, was found out to be true Last Sunday. This girls brother, who was in from out of state, told me that his sister really likes me, and always talks about me.

Me and my Ex's best friend went out to dinner last weekend with her brothers. One of the brothers thought me and her were dating, and asked what happened between me and my Ex. (This was before we broke up.)

The other brother told me that "Bee" (That will be this girls name) likes me - a lot - but doesn't want to hurt her friendship with my girlfriend (now my Ex.) He said whenever she calls him, she talks about me 80 percent of the time.

She's a real good person. Very caring, very honest, very trustworthy and my favorite, VERY SINGLE.

I'm kinda like, overloaded. Worse than a kid in a candy store. Of course, she's Korean.
Arghhhhh! I feel like I'm going to have a stroke...Female Overload....

[1969Mach1]

Share the wealth man!
Keep up the good work, but now you have alot of deciding to do.
You seem to be quite the ladies man Merc.
Have you decided what your going to do with the girl from work?

Good Luck,

[Crazy Horse GT]

hey merc why dont you start an escort service for yourself? i'll answer the phone & book you hehe just joking, hey your young & single go boy go! good luck man, take your vitamins hehe,see ya

[Mach 1]

Man, this is turning into "Days of our Lives"...lol. Let us know when something significant happens......like you get laid or something. ....

[joe4speed]

GEEZ!
share the wealth is right!

[Mercury]

I dont know whats up man. All through my young years, up to my senior year in High School, I was pretty much single. I dated a few times, but nothing really much at all.

I was always the chunky/dumpy/nerd in elementary school, the little Nose picking Dweeb with Zits in Junior High, and in High School I was pretty much the weird/Silent type with really bad Zits that dressed uncool. I was so afraid to say anything that might get me noticed, I feared that poeple would laugh at me. I still have this fear that everyones laughing at me, but I try to make it so they laugh with me.

For some reason, once I started College, I felt much more comfortable with my surrondings and talking to other people. I started combing my hair diffrently, I had like a Social Uplifting, my personality kinda shifted, and next thing I know girls start asking me out left and right.

I guess I learned that people love a Sense of Humor, and since I always had one, I thought I'd show it. After High school, I found out that its best for myself if I just "Be myself." and not give a Sh!t about what other people think, or will say.

Thats what seems to do it for me, just being myself, after bottling it up for so many years.

I still dont know what these people see in me, I dont find myself all that hot looking, all that smart, all that great, or all that funny. I think rather lowly of myself to tell you all the truth. I'm no "MAC DADDY" or James Bond thats for sure. I'm just "Damien". I have Nerdy intrests, Space/Astronomy, Physics, SuperNaturaul stuff (Ghosts), Sci-Fi reading and Writing, Classical Music, Fine Arts ( I draw and Paint alot and have sold a few peices), and of course my favorite Hobbie.......MUSTANGS....

[Mr 5 0]

Mercury:

Congratulations on becoming a Babe Magnet!

Really, it appears as if, like a lot of people, you came into your own when you got out of High School and escaped the Conformity Police that ridicule anyone who doesn't 'look right' or in any way deviates from some inane but generally approved style of action or dress or association.
Attending college can be a catharsis for many people; where they 'blossom' and find out who they really are without the weight of High School Conformity bearing down on them all the time.

Your varied interests and current success, along with your newfound sense of humor and ability to be 'who you are' without pretense (or just being an insensitive, self-centered jerk, which isn't the same thing) all combine to make you more attractive to women, as your current experiences demonstrate.

Remember, the girls you're getting the positive signals from now are also a little older and they too have different views as to what's attractive in a guy than a 14-year old may have.

We all learn - eventually - that very few women (or men) are perfect physical specimens and look like movie stars. We also realize that we all have our character flaws and personal baggage to deal with, but we also know that honesty, integrity, a sense of humor and some self-respect can translate into an attractive package to the opposite sex, even if the face or body isn't movie-star perfect.

I'm glad to see one of our members is having an interesting romantic life after all the angst we read about and the idiotic games some people play on each other in relationships. Maturity is a wonderful thing. It can bring discernment and in your case, pleasant and welcomed attention from the opposite sex.

You seem to be handling it well. Keep it up and keep us informed.

[Mercury]

Thanks Mr 5.0.

You write so well, and are very well composed. Just out of curiosity, whats your educational background? I dont mean to pry. As you all can tell from my improper use of punctuation, and frequent misspellings that I'm no English major.

I am a quite a writer though, when it comes to composing my short stories (No, not the ones I post here.) and the book I'm working on. But when it comes to Term paper, or theasis style work, I fall flat on my face.

[Mr 5 0]

Mercury:

I'll respond to you in a Mustang Works Private Message as soon as I get the time. Look for it.

[Mach 1]

Mercury,

You figured out the key to getting laid, it is a sense of humor. If you can make a woman laugh, you are IN!

Just stay cool and dont overdue it. Being able to make people laugh is great, but if you try to hard, or overdue it, you look like a fool. Good luck.

later days, better lays

[1BAD89]

Actually the key to getting laid is just to be yourself. Well I guess if your a geek that isn't going to work....N/M.

[6T9PONY]

Do you want to know the REAL key to getting laid?

Give me five bucks. I'll tell ya....

Well, since you guys are such good guys...and girls...ahem....

The REAL key to getting laid is being like ME!!!

Haha...like you guys DIDN'T see that one coming.....

Sorry for the bad humor....

[6T9PONY]

400 posts!!!! I think I hit 250 about 2 weeks ago....seriously.....

That's a lot of posts in 2 weeks.....

It's official now though....I'm climbing up the ranks!!

[Mercury]

No, I'm not missing half my brain, and no I'm not "Lacking anything" . But the "Physical Aspect" of a relationship matter little to me.

I dont get in a relationship just to get "Laid". The reasons I persue relationships with certian women vary as much as my field of intrests.

Physical attraction does play a role, but not the prospects of getting physical. I look for some one who has the same/similar basis for there moral beliefs and life style as me. Thats most important to me. Next would be the persons "Depth", I cant stand shallowness. The most vauble virtue is Honesty in my books, if I feel that I cant trust a person, then I wont even bother with them. I've been burned to many times before to take another gamble there.

I know this may sound very unbecoming of the typical mid 20's male, but I dont like being rushed into sex. Very Long personal story.

From my experience I've come to the conclusion that a Relationship based on Sex or a persons physical attributes is a Relationship thats soon not to be.

My Ex-Girl friends best friend ..."Bee" is all I could ask for in a women. But again, its kinda an akward situation. Just like if I were to Date an employee. Never anything Normal with me.

[69fastback]

Just play ur cards right and pick the one u like the best. Don't just jump on one or the other. Hell u need to get out and date a few girls u have always been in relationships. Spend more time looking for urself instead of a girlfreind. It really has helped me out.

[Mercury]

Go ahead, date the wild, beautifull, hot girl from work. Even if it is just for Sex.

Part of me is like "What the hell is wrong with you. Go out and be wild, date the wild women, go out with as many as you possibly can."

Then theres the conservative side of me which usually prevails. I dont know. I confuse the hell out of myself.

[6T9PONY]

Yeah, Merc, we were just playin about getting laid. We know you're not all about that. None of us are that I can tell. We were just having a little bit of fun.

I agree with you about the physical part....it's not why you'd be in a relationship....

This is how it goes for me though....my girlfriend agrees with me on this.....

The first way you're attracted to somebody you don't know and just met is physical, it has to be. Just on a first impression sight. Instantly you notice she's cute or she's not. Then you start talking to her. If she is cool, then you're attracted even more. If she's a moron and annoying, then all attraction is lost. If she's cool the more you talk the more you are attracted to her. It eventually leads to physical attraction. That's when you're in a full relationship--when you have mental attraction between the minds and physical attraction.....that sound right to everyone?

If I had to pick between your 2 options...I'd pick "Bee"....IMHO....

[mustangman65_79]

I'll tell u what it is. It's the car man, chicks dig mustangs. A Mustang is a big chick car, it's got the power and sound a guy likes, but it's got the looks and comfort a women wants. A lot of my friends don't understand why I want my POS '66 Rustang(as they call it) but no women can resist a fully restored mustang with a good looking guy in it. Even how it is now, rust, primer, cream white, and a tick in the motor, I still get looks(not sure if thet are good ones) at me. Next weekend, the cars gonna be all primer, no rust, and after I get my tax return, a new cam, so no tick in the motor. I tell u, keep your old mustang, and they will continue to flock to u.

[mustangdani55]

well damien...looks like you are well on the road to a new relationship...just take your time and don't jump into something. if you know what i mean. it is very refershing to see a guy with other things on his mind besides sex. although it can be reeeaaalllyyyyyy fun.hehe